In essence, rebellious psychology refers to a psychological state in which people are disgusted with certain things and deliberately act contrary to the common sense of the development of events under the influence of certain external factors. It is a negative psychological activity that individuals take in order to receive external education and guidance. This is a common social psychology that happens to primary school students. Rebellious psychology is an abnormal emotional experience and behavioral tendency, which is usually manifested as emotional opposition, competition and emotional disgust. It is the distinctive psychological characteristics and age characteristics of primary school students. In particular, children whose love appears in single-parent families or whose parents have been away for many years are left to the next generation of relatives to take care of.
They don't listen to adults at home and teachers at school; Disturbing classroom discipline, not completing homework, coming out of the classroom when you think of it; Contrary to school discipline, I like playing pranks or destroying public property. Littering, etc. They often show disobedience to the education of teachers or parents and tell him not to do so, but he still insists on doing so and openly opposes teachers at school.
Last year, I took over a class with 43 students. There are 23 boys in this class, most of whom are very active, don't attend classes often, and their learning goals are not clear. Among them, five students have the above personality. They cooperated to disturb the classroom and make strange noises. In class, they are proud of how to make the whole class laugh, and they are used to bullying their classmates and fighting. In particular, a classmate named Zhou Xiaoyong has fought many times in less than a month. In the words of the former teacher, "I have been a teacher like him for more than 30 years and have never met." For more than a month, I also deeply realized that he is really different. I also transferred to another school, but I didn't want to accept it, so I returned to this class. In addition to the unclear learning purpose, the attitude is extremely arrogant and the mood is extremely extreme. Every time he violates discipline, the teacher will talk to him. As soon as he leaves the office, he will vent his anger by hitting his classmates, smashing tables and chairs, and smashing windows. Without any teacher's education, you can do whatever you want. He became a famous "problem student" in the whole school and everyone hated him.
One day, just after class, "Zhou Xiaoyong and Wu Feng in our class fought again". Hearing this, my brain "buzzed" for a moment, and I hurried back to the classroom. A scene appeared in front of me: on Monday, I grabbed Wu's hair and slammed it into the projection cabinet, while holding up Wu's stomach with my feet. Fight to the death. Seeing this, my anger went straight to my forehead and my heart was in my throat. I dragged him away, twisted him to the office and stood beside me. And he stood with his chest out, his head up, glaring at me, looking fearless. Looking at Wu whose forehead was bleeding, all the teachers in the office were very angry. "Call his parents and pick him up." "Let the school stop him for a few days." ..... In the face of such a rebellious student, watching the teacher is dealing with Wu, my anger is like adding fuel to the fire. I severely raised my high slap and wanted to. ...
As soon as I stood up, the corner of my eye told me that some part of his leg must have been injured and blood was flowing out of his trouser leg. They are all my students, my children. People who are hurt are distressed! Thought of here, my heart calmed down a lot. I gently slapped him on the head and cut his messy hair. "Are you hurt too?"
He looked at me in surprise and shook his head quickly. "come on Come here! Let the teacher have a look. " Reluctantly, he took two steps towards me. "Who wants you to look!" He broke my hand hard. I lowered my head and rolled up his injured trouser leg. What a big wound, DC's blood. I helped him clean the wound and complained, "I still said no, look!" Isn't this still bleeding? " I looked up at him. I saw his surprise in his eyes and lost his hostility when he came. There is just resistance, "don't think this is a small wound. It doesn't matter, the infection problem is big. " "Teacher ..." He was clumsy and his voice was very low. I continued to treat his wounds. I knew he was in pain, but he said nothing and tried to control himself. After the treatment, I coated him with hemostatic powder, and then he couldn't help sobbing anymore. "Teacher ..." Two tears rolled down and fell on the hand where I drugged him, which was a little cold. I stood up and looked at him, and he was in tears. "Why? Does the wound hurt? Really? " "You just deal with good pain. You are so strong that you didn't say anything! " "No ... no ... it hurts." "No, why are you crying?" I asked him strangely. "Teacher, I was wrong!" Then he began to cry.
Watching him burst into tears, the disdain and hostility when he first came in had already vanished. I found a piece of paper to help him wipe his tears and said, "Men are strong. Why does he always cry like a female classmate! " He took my hand. "Teacher, why don't you ask me why I fought just now? In fact, he is right, but I don't like him. " I beat my classmate to death for this. Who is not angry! But I said, "Didn't you admit your mistake just now? Why does the teacher ask questions? " I looked at him and said in an understanding tone, "Those past mistakes can only represent your past mistakes, not the present or the forever future." Then I held his face in my hand, let him look into my eyes and enlighten him. "Today, we don't talk about the cause of the fight, just talk about the result of the fight. The teacher thinks there are only three results in fighting. First, if you win and hurt your classmates, you will be held accountable, such as paying medical bills. The second is: he won, but he hurt you. You can't hurt it. Or like today, you're all hurt. I have to call a doctor to deal with it later. You can imagine the consequences of fighting for yourself and others, right! " I followed the instructions and turned the truth into an understanding tone. An educator said: children don't like to hear the truth, but they don't like to hear the truth they don't understand. Yes, at this moment, looking at him in front of me, the unscrupulous face in my heart now shows a long-lost kind smile.
There are many reasons for students' rebellious psychology. When guiding students' moral behavior, we should carefully analyze students' ideological status and psychological requirements, accurately grasp the stage and level of students' moral development, and step by step in educational strategies to avoid confrontation between teachers and students as much as possible. Students who are rebellious should treat each other sincerely and communicate actively. After the conversation, he also told me that he also knew that many of his mistakes were his own and he wanted to correct them several times. For example, he tried to admit his mistake when he broke the glass, but the teacher scolded me without asking me. I just stopped talking without giving me a chance to explain. Let her scold, scold! I just didn't say a word. Later, he told me how he broke the glass. After analysis, he did not bear half of the responsibility, but all the losses and took full responsibility. Understand this, let me know deeply, he taught me to respect students' personality and gave them the opportunity to explain. I also changed my view on his education, found the bright spots in time, gave trust and encouragement, and encouraged him to love himself and strengthen himself with his advantages.
The reasons for students' rebellious psychology are not only our usual words and deeds and a classmate's fixed thinking. I also learned from my former teacher that his parents are in the fruit business. He goes out to collect fruit before dawn every day and comes back after 10 in the evening. At home, he is dreaming. After so many years, my parents are very strict. They beat him as soon as they heard the teacher say he had done something wrong, and sometimes they picked him up from their dreams and beat him. Eventually lead to sharp contradictions, often against the teacher. In view of its characteristics, I first chatted with its parents to let them realize the characteristics of their children; Do your best to do business and accompany your children. How do you think a student who is still in the fourth grade of primary school can't get the care of his parents for a long time, and how can he not be rebellious? Through talking with him, he made him understand the hard work of his parents. Now, most teachers report that Zhou Xiaoyong is much more obedient and sensible than before, just like a different person.
The formation of students' rebellious psychology is related to family relations and improper teaching methods of class teachers. Therefore, the head teacher should first focus on improving his own quality, including psychological quality, educational and teaching professional ability and professional ethics. Teachers should have a good educational mentality, put care, respect and love for students in the first place, and put students on an equal footing with themselves. Even treat them in front of their children. When students have excessive behavior, teachers should learn to control anger, be good at using educational wit and strategies, and skillfully resolve the contradiction between teachers and students.
We should make rational use of the positive role of students' rebellious psychology. The head teacher should boldly use the positive factors of pupils' rebellious psychology to cultivate their innovative consciousness and ability. In the ideological education of students, teachers should not be biased, and reasoning should not only talk about the favorable or good side, but also talk about the harmful or bad side, so as to guide students to think reversely. For example, a student in my class hit a small classmate in Grade Two. I talked to him like this, "What grade are you in?" "Fourth grade." "What grade is he in?" "Grade two" "Which of you has read more books?" "me!" "If only I knew, I would be sensible if I read more books!" His face turned red. Bowed his head. Let them find their mistakes. In education and teaching, teachers should fully grasp the characteristics of adolescent students' rebellious thinking, guide the situation and prescribe the right medicine. Encourage students to put forward different opinions and solutions to problems.
We should also pay attention to guiding students with rebellious psychology. Teachers should not use the methods of repression and compulsory obedience to the negative rebellious psychology that has happened or will happen among students, but should do a good job of persuasion. Pupils have negative rebellious mentality. The internal reason is that they lack social experience and the ability to distinguish right from wrong, good from evil. They tend to look at problems simply and unilaterally, but they are open-minded and honest, and dare to think and speak, because they don't understand at all. As long as you understand the truth, the change of attitude is just around the corner. The guidance of this kind of students focuses on explaining the truth and eliminating the wrong cognitive factors; Secondly, we should grasp and capture the favorable educational opportunity, impress students' emotions and mobilize students' emotions; Third, guide the situation, follow the lead, use methods and educational media that students are willing to accept, and set an example. Improve the effectiveness of dredging work.
Therefore, the correction of students' rebellious psychology should mainly adopt the methods of approaching students' hearts, convincing people with reason and moving people with emotion, rather than political preaching, let alone coercion and radical action. As the ancients said, too much anger can easily hurt people. Looking back, I tried my best to suppress my anger, which surprised him by being reprimanded. I had a double exchange of reason and emotion, so that his long-lost heart was bathed in the winter sunshine. In the case of spring breeze, if the west wind is always sharp and the autumn frost is cold, he will be reprimanded and furious.