Think of a problem I once saw. In scientific research, especially in brain science research, we are "studying the brain with the brain". Is this feasible?
Psychology is the function of the brain, so from a psychological point of view, it is similar to looking at your own brain with your brain.
When we look in the mirror, we can't see ourselves completely at the same time, let alone psychologically.
So I'm afraid not many people can see themselves clearly.
Psychological counselors are not people who can see people clearly, including themselves and others (yes, I don't think psychological counselors must see people more thoroughly than others), but they should be regarded as people who are most concerned about people's psychology.
(2) About solving problems
Think of a cartoon about psychological counseling, the content is: an adult male is very sad every day, because he has the problem of wetting the bed, so he confides his troubles to his friends. After a while, my friend found that he was in a better state and asked what happened. He said he went to a counselor. The friend asked, so you don't wet the bed now? He said, no, I accept wetting my bed now.
When discussing psychological problems with my friends recently, I said: Who doesn't have a problem? It's just that the severity of the problem is different
Whether it is mental health or physical health, there is actually no absolute index, but there is a lower limit or interval. At the same time, the psychological situation is more flexible.
When I was in middle school, I was particularly depressed for two or three weeks several times. I am listless every day and can't do anything. Once, because of family reasons, there was no obvious incentive for several times. Later, I learned psychology before I realized that I might be prone to depression. But I didn't know it at that time, and there was no psychological teacher. Because I didn't understand and didn't think of any special way, I put it down and walked out slowly.
In retrospect, maybe I didn't understand depression at that time, which was a good thing for me.
I tend not to take problems too seriously and learn to face my own problems.
Again, who has no problem?
(Of course, serious problems still need intervention. )
There are two points involved here:
First, consultants have limited skills.
Second, people's abilities are limited at present.
Psychology also has a lot of room for development, and there are still many problems to be studied.
I won't elaborate on these two points.
I just discussed with my friends that some psychological counselors will be unconsciously influenced by him during the consultation process. As an authority, you can't see his routine. You may not even think that he helped you, but you are fine.
On the other hand, if you can see the routine, will this method still be effective?
Will it be effective for psychological counselors to enlighten themselves with routines they know? I'm afraid it's hard to have a real effect.
In addition, people who think that counselors can solve their own problems, I guess they also think that self-study psychology can solve their own problems. Then counseling is too one-sided. If nothing else, I'm afraid I can't even give myself the most basic feelings and positive attention in psychological counseling. Some things are not self-sufficient.
The understanding of this problem can be divided into three aspects:
1. Is there any difference between the experience and methods of psychological counselors in self-cognition and psychological adjustment and those of non-professionals?
2. Is the professional knowledge of counselors enough to help them solve their psychological problems 100%?
3. As visitors, psychological counselors receive professional help from other counselors. Is the purpose different from that of ordinary tourists?
First of all, share my views on the first question. Whether it is psychological theoretical knowledge or consulting practical experience, these can be resources for personal self-help healing. Therefore, when counselors encounter some situational psychological problems (that is, psychological problems arising in certain situations are different from those arising from personality, the former is anxious due to job changes, and the latter is prone to anxiety about anything), they can actually use their professional knowledge and experience to adjust themselves. This is also the reason why we popularize psychological knowledge-most people can help themselves by studying psychology.
Secondly, whether for counselors or others, some psychological symptoms are really more suitable for seeking professional help from others rather than saving themselves. For example, acute or major trauma, personality-related maladjustment patterns, etc. On the other hand, the effectiveness of psychological counseling depends not only on the professional knowledge and skills of counselors, but also on the good relationship between counselors and visitors, so that visitors can experience new experiences and the mirror function of counselors, so that visitors can see that they are hidden and ignored. These are all impossible to achieve by self-adjustment.
Finally, psychological counselors do personal experience (that is, accept counseling services as visitors), not only to solve psychological problems, but also to help their own counseling work. Because psychological counseling requires practitioners' psychological function to be higher than the psychological function standard of ordinary people's normal life, that is to say, some uncultured psychology has little influence on ordinary people's normal life and does not need special attention and treatment. However, if counselors can't keep a high awareness of their psychological problems, it may have some influence on better understanding and helping visitors. Therefore, if a counselor has personal problems, even if it does not affect his normal life, he may need to deal with them in his personal experience. At this time, the purpose of consultation is not entirely to solve these problems-no one is perfect, and consultants are not necessarily perfect consultants-but may be to better understand themselves through full discussion with their own experiencers.
Psychological counselors are not gods, but also people. Everyone has worldly desires. It can only be said that there are more ways to solve psychological problems than others.
As a psychologist, you must eliminate more than 60% of your past negative energy in order to help others better and do your homework to eliminate negative energy and supplement positive energy every day.
We will also get some negative energy in our daily experience and consume energy constantly, so we need to be aware, learn and grow.
If you touch your inner pain in the process of asking for help, you need to learn and grow with help.
The more you clean up your trauma and negative energy, the less you are touched by the outside world.
I worked as a psychological counselor more than ten years ago, and I have been healing myself when I was treating my clients, but it took too long, so I became an international advanced hypnotherapist, timeline executor and NLP psychotherapist through further study. These technologies are 80 to 100 years more advanced than domestic technologies, and negative events and emotions can be eliminated in ten minutes, which is the gospel of the parties concerned.
May we all get rid of demons and live better in the present!
This is so normal. Consultants let consultants design, and consultants design themselves. Projection needs goals, so consultants need a lot of consultants.
I once saw a great god who engaged in psychology say that "the counselor was cured by the counselor", and even Zen Buddhism has the saying that "I want to be a sentient being, but I want to be a sentient being". From this point of view, Dafa is the same, and practicing mental method in the world of mortals is the right way.
Therefore, if there are not enough counselors, there will be no chance to really do it, and there will be more and more delusions and eventually play with themselves.
How to treat psychological counselors who can't see themselves clearly and solve their psychological problems?
To answer your question, we need to clarify first: usually we assume that all normal people who are growing up will have psychological problems. You will ask such a question.
But when we change our assumptions, you will find that your question is not objective.
Assuming that normal people don't have psychological problems, your problem doesn't hold water. Because psychological problems only exist in the subjective world, everyone's subjective world can only be controlled by themselves. In this case, why do you say that psychological counselors can't see themselves clearly and can't solve their psychological problems? It can only be your subjective inference.
Then you regard subjective inference as an objective fact, which illustrates two problems:
1. In some cases, you can't distinguish between subjective and objective, which will bring you a lot of discomfort.
2. Have unreasonable beliefs. Because of unreasonable beliefs, there is no distinction between subjective and objective in some cases.
To sum up, psychological counselors know best whether they can see themselves clearly and whether they have psychological problems. We can't benchmark others' subjective world with our own subjective world.
It is generally believed that counselors can solve their psychological problems.
In fact, psychological counseling needs a long counseling period, which varies according to the degree.
In this process, visitors and consultants need to set consulting goals together.
The role of the counselor is to help and guide visitors to clear the clouds, that is, the appearance of the problem, and gradually go deep into the back.
The key lies in visitors' comprehension and introspection, and finally in growing up and solving problems.
1. If you have any questions during the consultation, you can ask the consultant.
2. It is recommended to find a national registered psychological counselor with professional experience.
I hope I can help you.
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Doctors don't cure themselves, no, but no. Because it takes time and energy to solve the problem by yourself, and there is no guarantee that it will have an effect, which is not counted in cost.
Some psychological knowledge may be unreliable.