When these things were done and all the chaos and dust settled, I took a long breath. The client hasn't arrived yet, and the door hasn't opened. I stood in front of the studio, waiting patiently and securely. I have a few minutes to think quietly. What I think is: I am really working hard! I was addicted to that moment of narcissism, but another voice in my head remembered: you fart, where are you working hard? You are obviously stupid and incompetent! If you hadn't forgotten to make an appointment by phone in advance, how could they have closed the door and how could you be so embarrassed?
If I had got up earlier that day and then called to make an appointment for the venue and time, I wouldn't have rushed to the studio and encountered all these troubles. My so-called hard work and hard work can actually be avoided, as long as I call in advance.
What I mean by "efforts" is just a series of remedial measures taken after a series of failures caused by poor organization. What is worthy of my self-touch and affirmation?
I realized that this is a microcosm of many things in my past life: I mistakenly thought that those behaviors that caused me some pain but didn't help the result were "efforts". This is really a huge epiphany for me, and it suddenly made me understand many things that I couldn't figure out before.
A netizen once sent a private message to Weibo asking me: Why do I always fail again and again when I work so hard? I didn't pass the CET-4 twice, and the results of the third exam came out, but I still failed. I took the accounting certificate before, and it is the same. I work hard every day, but I have made no progress. I worked so hard, why didn't I get something? I asked him: How hard did you work? He said: when others are playing, I study in the study room every day and go out early and come back late every day.
I think what he said is strange and obviously violates the law of cause and effect. I ran to his Weibo and soon found the answer. In his previous article, Weibo said: I came to study in the study room! After that, I forwarded all kinds of funny jokes and other Weibo every time. I remember he often likes and leaves messages on my Weibo. So, the picture that comes to my mind is: He is studying in the study room all day, in fact, he is brushing Weibo in the circle of friends with his mobile phone, praising and forwarding. This so-called effort, in fact, just seems to be very hard, and has not really worked hard to that extent.
This reminds me of a friend who works in a company and is starting a business. He is a small software company. He is busy all day. Every time his friends get together, he is always on the phone and answering the phone. He thinks he works hard in the workplace, and we know that his friends all call his efforts "fooling around". A typical event in his life is this: meeting with customers and talking about the needs of software development. Because he didn't read the information sent by customers before the meeting, and he didn't listen to customers' opinions and understand their needs during the meeting. After coming back, the products he asked his employees to make were far from the needs of customers. Then, the customer complained that he scolded the employees here, apologized to the customers there and asked to extend the project cycle ... his life is always like this. His startup company had many customers at first, but now one customer after another no longer cooperates with him.
Recently, I heard that he moved three times in a short month, and he also started a lawsuit with the decoration company because of very small things. I asked a friend: isn't he very busy? Why do you still have time to do this? The friend replied: Some people have to do a lot of things to keep themselves busy because of their incompetence, so as to increase their poor sense of self-worth, and at the same time forget and escape their incompetence. This answer is really sharp!