Method 1: Help children find "careless points"
The mother of a 10-year-old child has a lot of experience in solving the child's carelessness:
My child is not good at math. After carefully analyzing the reasons why he made mistakes every time, my child and I came to the same conclusion: it's not that he won't do it, but that he will make mistakes every time. From this I understand that it is the child's "carelessness" that is easy to mistake.
So, I told my child, "The reason why you are careless is because your mind slips away every time you examine the questions." What shall we do? We will do this problem every time in the future, stop, close our eyes and count to three, then open our eyes and write it down, so that it is not easy to make mistakes. Because you didn't let the thought slip away, but consciously set obstacles for it. It's like uncle * * putting up a signboard in a traffic accident-prone area. "
The child did as I taught him, and the effect was really obvious. Every time he does his homework, he makes fewer mistakes because of carelessness.
Look, in the face of the child's carelessness, the mother is not criticizing the child and giving the child a "political lesson", but helping the child find the crux of the problem and adopt the right method to help the child solve the problem.
Method 2: Let the children prepare a wrong book.
The children's exercise books and composition books are full of typos, which makes the children feel inferior and the mother helpless.
So, the child's mother went to consult a child education expert. Under the guidance of educational experts, mother came up with a good idea. She counted and sorted out the typos in his exercise book with the children. After finishing, she and her children were surprised to find that only a few words were always written wrong. Finally, she asked the children to prepare a small notebook, write the sorted typos in this notebook, and analyze the reasons for these typos with the children and write them in the notebook.
With the patient guidance of the mother and the earnest persistence of the child, after one week, the typos in the child's exercise book have been significantly reduced.
If your child has a careless question, you might as well ask him to prepare a wrong book.
In fact, as long as the problems of "carelessness" are sorted out in detail, these problems can be consciously corrected ideologically. In the future, when children encounter similar problems, the brain will automatically provide early warning and response to control the phenomenon of "carelessness" to the maximum extent. Like walking on ice. Because the ice is slippery, you should walk carefully. Because you are careful, you will naturally make fewer mistakes.
Method 3: Make a fuss about caution.
When children are careless, the average mother either complains or criticizes, but the effect is often not obvious. In fact, it's also a good idea for mom to change her mind and make a fuss about caution.
A mother once introduced her experience like this:
Sometimes, I don't always stare at the mistakes made by children because of carelessness, but look for opportunities to praise their carefulness. If the child cleans the floor without being reminded by an adult, and the child avoids a mistake that he often made before, I will record these.
There is a watch on the wall of our house. Every time the child is careful, I will draw him a red five-pointed star. When the five-pointed star is full, I will give him a little reward, such as taking him to KFC once; After two small rewards, I will give him a big reward, buy him new clothes, a new pencil case and so on. After this persistence for a period of time, I found that the children became more and more careful, and the careless problems were obviously reduced.
Mothers should pay special attention to this. Never label children negatively when they are careless. You are a careless bug, and I don't think your carelessness can be changed. Parents say such things, and children themselves will lose confidence.
People often have the psychology of verification, especially children. If we try our best to discover the child's carefulness and seize the opportunity to affirm and encourage him, the child will feel that he is really careful. When children become more and more careful, carefulness becomes a habit of children.
Method 4: Cultivate children's orderly living habits.
Children's carelessness was not developed in a day. If a child lives in a disorderly family since childhood, without a certain schedule and good living habits, then the child will become a "parent's meal" if he is not careful.
Therefore, mothers should guide their children to develop orderly living habits. In life, let children develop the good habit of keeping things by themselves, not only school supplies, but also clothes and shoes should be put in their own cabinets and kept by themselves. In learning, it is necessary to cultivate children's good habits such as completing homework on the same day, checking after finishing homework, previewing before class and reviewing after class.
Life and study are carried out in an orderly way, and carelessness is of course a very rare phenomenon.