The police informed that the bizarre disappearance of a 53-year-old woman in Hangzhou was a premeditated intentional homicide. The woman's husband, Xu Moumou, initially confessed that he was dissatisfied with Lai Moumou because of contradictions in family life. In the early morning of July 5, he was killed while he was sleeping at home, and his body was dismembered and thrown away.
Both parties are married for the second time, and both have their own children. There are not a few couples who have been reorganized like this. Many people say? Couple halfway, thief for life? ,? Husband and wife leave each other a hand halfway? . Can't couples be half happy? I have to say that there is indeed a complicated relationship between couples halfway. If you are not careful, there will be cracks in your marriage and even tragedy.
How to balance the relationship between husband and wife halfway, and how to make the second marriage family happier? Listen to the advice of experts.
The expert invited in this issue is Dr. Zhou, a national second-class psychological counselor and cognitive behavioral therapist.
1, why is it difficult for couples to be happy halfway, and what problems are prone to occur?
Both husband and wife will think more about their children.
In this case, 53-year-old Ms. Lai and her husband Xu Moumou both remarried. They have a daughter who is 1 1 years old this year. However, Ms. Lai has a eldest daughter with her ex-husband, and her husband Xu Moumou also has a son with his ex-wife. It is inevitable that both of them will think more about their children.
The reporter interviewed the residents of the community and said that Ms. Lai had a quarrel with her husband because of demolition and housing distribution before she disappeared. ? Her husband wanted to give his son a set, but she never agreed? .
There are two relocation houses under Ms. Lai's name. They now live in Sanbao Beiyuan Community, Jianggan District, Hangzhou, with an area of only over 50 square meters. Another large house of 65,438+000 square meters is under renovation and is expected to be completed in August. This is a very considerable asset in the housing market with an average of 29,000 yuan per square meter in Hangzhou.
Therefore, there are strong contradictions and differences between husband and wife on children's rights and interests, maintenance expenses of both sides, which is a hidden danger of crime that can not be ignored.
It is difficult for us to know from the survey report whether the husband and wife have fully understood each other and whether they have come together after building trust.
Maybe it's just because a divorced woman raised her daughter alone, feeling insecure and looking for a man who can protect herself and her family and rely on her. Just xu teacher's? Veteran? Identity can bring her a sense of security and make her feel protected.
Half-way marriage between husband and wife will involve many people, parents, children, relatives and so on, which will become factors that interfere with marriage. If the two sides have no emotional foundation and just live together, then there will be little time for real communication between husband and wife, let alone heart-to-heart.
Marriage requires two people to work together and should not care how much the other party pays. Whether it's money or feelings, once you haggle over every ounce, you will doubt each other. Say? A house full of children is worse than a couple halfway. But in the end, it is easier to love than to be together. Only by learning to love and know how to manage can feelings take root and sprout slowly.
2. What efforts do men and women need to make to have a happy second marriage family?
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If your husband's financial ability is not as good as yours, or not much different from yours, avoid challenges, satire, sarcasm and complaints in this respect. Otherwise, it will make him feel incompetent and worthless in the family.
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Avoiding criticizing and accusing the husband in front of the children will make him feel worthless and unloving in front of the children. On the contrary, it is necessary to establish a tall image of the husband as a father in front of the children and let the children admire him, which will give the husband a strong sense of ability and value.
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When a husband does something at home, he should praise him more in front of his children, even if it is a small housework such as cooking and washing clothes. Praise will increase his sense of value.
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I usually have time to do various activities with my husband, such as fitness, watching movies, traveling and so on. So as to continuously increase the feelings of husband and wife and make the husband feel loved.
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If your husband is in financial difficulties, don't flatly refuse to help. It is best to discuss with him and find a mutually acceptable solution on the basis of respecting him. This will increase her husband's sense of value and love.
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Understand, respect, love, help and appreciate each other's children.