Yesterday, my friend spoke on social software: I feel that I am adopted. When I was not married, my parents instilled this idea in her and her sister for three days. "After marriage, don't always think about her family's property. It will be left to my brother. As daughters, they have no share. "
At that time, she thought it was just a joke. After all, it's all palm meat, and we can't be too eccentric. As a result, after the younger brother got married, his parents left him all their savings and two houses. And since my brother had a child, my parents have spent more than half of their pension to subsidize my brother's family. Even his children's cram school is paid for by their parents.
If that's all, she'll admit it. She's the spilled water. To her dismay, when her parents were ill, it was her and her sister's business to spend money on donations. My younger brother just appeared, made an excuse to say that he was busy at work, and ran away directly. A while ago, she and her sister were specially called back to discuss alimony. The initial decision is that each family will pay 1000 yuan per month. Alas, when you have a pension, you have to save it for your son and grandson, and then ask your daughter for it. Is this reasonable?
Because the girl was depressed at that time, I could only comfort her to understand the old man. After all, she is her own parents. But then again, if all the property is given to my son, is it reasonable for me to ask my daughter to pay alimony or pension? In order to understand the views of most people more clearly, I specially asked in the group. From your comments, I have probably summarized these opinions.
It is natural to support parents.
Some people think that their parents' property belongs to their parents, and they have every right to dispose of it freely. They can choose to leave it to future generations and spend all their money on themselves. As long as parents fulfill their guardianship obligations, their children will have the obligation to support them when they grow up. It sounds ridiculous to decide the degree and way of filial piety according to the amount of property left by parents, but it does reflect the ignorance and ignorance of patriarchal families.
In addition, parents' practices can only alienate their daughters from their parents. If the parents make such a decision, the daughter may not be filial in the future. Especially after marriage, parents will make their daughters hold their heads up in the man's house. If the son-in-law doesn't want to, it will hinder her daughter's future happiness. Moreover, the daughter may maintain her own small home and give up loving her family.
Whoever leaves the property should bear the greatest responsibility.
Of course, some people think it is unreasonable. Although the law stipulates that children have the obligation to support their parents, if parents do so, the daughter's mind will be unbalanced. Whoever leaves the property should bear the greatest responsibility. For example, if all the property is left to the son and the daughter has no share, then the parents' pension, medical care and other expenses will be borne by the son and the daughter will not bear the responsibility.
However, filial piety is necessary. If the family conditions are good, there is nothing to lose by contributing money. If the conditions are really bad, at least always take care of your parents.