Parents are kind and children are kind; Parents are evil, and children must be bad. This is why Mencius came from Meng Mu.
Father is ill-tempered, as if planting flowers hurt his roots; A mother's bad temper is like a grain that can't grow when heated.
Parents' minds are not good, and children can never be good. If the child is born in a good temper, then the parents' temper will go bad and the child will definitely go bad. Parents have a bad temper and heavy karma, and the children born will have great merits in the future. Children in light industry will naturally be good, and children in heavy industry will die. This is an inspiration between ethics. Therefore, people are in their own hands. As for the rise and fall of the social state, it also depends on how the children born in each family are induced by their parents' minds. But if the social state is not good, it is because most parents are induced by bad karma, and the children born are more and more developed. Come back then, it will cause great disaster. Tracing back to the source, it is because we don't pay attention to basic education. As the old saying goes, "The son of a good bow is often a dustpan, and the son of a good smelting is often autumn." From ancient times to the present, the Virgin Mary is a virtuous woman, and a greedy husband will give birth to evil children, which is the ironclad evidence of fundamental education. Wang once said: "Masculinity is sunny, femininity is catering, and children born in sunny catering are prodigies."
The ancients said that prenatal education is: pregnant women turn a blind eye to evil colors, turn a deaf ear to lewd voices, can't say evil words, can't sleep on their side, can't lie on their side, can't stand upright, can't eat evil taste, can't cut straight and can't sit upright.
Wang's prenatal education is "ambition education". What is Tzu Chi teaching? That is, pregnant women should focus on which saints and immortals they worship and who they hope their children look like. The Lord devotes himself to his word, recites his good words and deeds repeatedly, and even hangs (or worships) his icon. What he sees, thinks and abides by every day, without the sincere feelings of leaving this saint and immortal Buddha, the fetus will have the temperament of this saint and immortal Buddha. This is "Zhijiao".
It has become common sense that it is best for babies to breastfeed. If a mother with a nursing child is angry or angry, the baby will get sick after eating this milk. Therefore, the diseases of breast-feeding babies are all on the mother. Only when the mother can keep a happy mood can the baby be healthy physically and mentally. Although the baby seems ignorant, he always looks at his mother's face when he is breastfeeding (even if he is not breastfeeding), and the emotional expression on his mother's face directly affects the baby's mind. Therefore, it is most important to use "color teaching" at this time and always keep a kind, happy and smiling face.
In infancy, mother is the hardest. As long as the care is proper, the baby's body will not be bound. Different countries have different customs, climates and habits, and the nursing methods are also different. For example, Japanese back weight loss and China chest weight loss all have proper positions. First, it is good for children's health. Second, it is convenient to clean up, and adults don't feel bad. Third, it is economical and can be handled as usual for a long time.
As soon as the baby is born, the mother will "shout".
Wang said: "After the baby is born, you can know what sex he is by listening to his crying. It is the fire that cries urgently, the water that cries slowly, the soil that cries until it stops, the wood that suddenly stops crying loudly, and the endless gold. After recognizing his temperament, we should always call Li Ming (fire), which is wood fire and the boy's good luck. If a girl is made of wood, she should always be called Rou (water), which means that it is a woman's good luck to raise water from wood. After a long time, sex will change. "
In addition to "calling sex", we should also use "meaning teaching". If the mother is unconscious, the child will cry, as if there is an invisible line between the child's mood and the mother's mood. Therefore, my mother should be clear-headed and don't think about it. She always thinks that my children are the cutest and most promising, and they must be very smart.
From birth to one year old, babies are called babies. They have the fastest physical development and are hungry and cold. They should pay special attention to cleanliness and hygiene so as not to hinder the baby's development. In addition to the above-mentioned "calling", "color teaching" and "meaning teaching", the baby's acceptance is also very strong. If the toys in the baby's hands are taken away, the parents will quickly prompt: "My children are easy to let people, and others will not take them." The baby stopped crying. Babies are still very dependent and always like to find someone to hug. If they cry for someone, adults will ignore him. He knows this method is ineffective, so he will stop crying and wait for his mother to come and gradually develop the virtue of patience. If the baby is old enough to talk, it is necessary to "teach life".
Wang said to him, "If you are older and can talk, you should teach him to call him father, mother, brother and sister. So that he can know the seniority. " This is an instruction.
The age of three is early childhood, and children's physical development is late, and their actions are mostly instinctive and lack of conscious ability.
Children are naturally active and good at hitting, throwing and throwing things. This is also a natural development method. It is not allowed to impose repression, because they can't vent their vitality and are most likely to get sick. When children grow up a little, they like to play, shoot and dance outdoors, which is conducive to making noise, laughing and running. Parents should take advantage of the situation, this is a child's sport.
Children are imitative, seeing beggars learn to beg and meeting blind people learn to be blind. His imagination is also great, taking bamboo instead of horses, leaves as boats and tables as buildings, all of which have exerted his imagination. Curiosity is also great. When something happens, it will break the casserole and ask questions one by one. Parents must not be bored, this is a good opportunity to inspire their children's wisdom. If we can make good use of these characteristics of children, it is the best intellectual education.
Children are easy to accept, rewarding and saving. If the child falls, the parents say, "My child never cries when he falls." Children will stop crying. Wang said: "Even if a child is disobedient, he is obedient and good at crying. He is not good at crying. After a long time, he can naturally change. " Children's gratitude is also natural. Parents often ask their children, "How do you honor your grandparents when you grow up?" The child was refreshed and talked about his filial piety. Wang once said: "It is a mistake for parents and teachers to always mention the benefits of the elderly and ancestors, and not to teach them the benefits of the elderly. At present, only knowledge is taught in schools, and the old people all call it' old-fashioned'. If this reason is planted, the higher the children's knowledge, the more they look down on the elderly, so they have developed the custom of not knowing filial piety. " Children are good at accumulating many small things, and the collection fully shows their frugal nature. Parents should guide him to form the habit of saving, which is a moral education for children.
Children's education is not as good as example, and parents should set an example. This is the best education method.
After all, children's ability to judge right and wrong is limited, and parents should maintain a "right and wrong view" attitude. For example, if a child's behavior is correct, he will praise it with a smiling face, and if his behavior is wrong, he will let him know with a serious expression that this behavior is unpopular. After a long time, children will naturally develop a correct view of right and wrong. If the child shows some cleverness, it is obviously wrong, but it makes people laugh and parents laugh, which is equivalent to encouraging him to do bad things, or because of his preferences, the child will behave like a spoiled child, which allows him to make mistakes, which is equivalent to hurting the child. Therefore, it is most important to maintain a correct attitude towards right and wrong. If you don't pay attention to correcting small things or first-time offenders, it will be too late to teach them when they develop into big problems.