First of all, I suggest you try to understand yourself and accept your state. Because doing so will make your heart a little easier and help you think about what to do next. Because you are a witness, you have met many psychological counselors, and their information and cognition are outdated. You don't think they can help after 00, but they really have more say after personal experience.
So you should try to understand yourself, accept yourself, and "see" yourself who has some doubts and worries but doesn't know what to do. This will give you extra energy to think about other things, otherwise your brain will always be filled with all kinds of negative emotions. More importantly, if you try to understand and accept yourself, it will be possible to promote the change of the status quo. It sounds contradictory, but it's true, because change is based on impermissible change.
Secondly, I suggest you treat the state you see rationally. Because rational treatment can make you better understand yourself and reality. Rational treatment requires you to do the following two things:
First of all, understand that what you see may not be the whole picture. That is to say, although you have many years of psychological counseling experience and have met many psychological counselors with outdated information and cognition, these are not enough to represent the whole picture of psychological counselors, but should be only a part of them. There are many counselors whose information and cognition are outdated. After all, your experience is limited.
The second is to understand that a good psychological counselor can keep pace with the times. In other words, there must be many psychological counselors with outdated information and cognition, because they pay attention to diligence and growth. Although they may be post-70s and post-80s, they will learn more about their post-00s ideas and then adjust their counseling methods on this basis. Here, I hope you also understand that no matter how the times change, some things remain unchanged, such as human nature, such as what is a good love, such as what is a good marriage, and so on. When you understand this, your inner doubts and worries may be much better.
Third, I suggest you focus on yourself and think about what you can do to make yourself feel better. In other words, you can find ways to find the information and cognition that you think is suitable for you. You can also ask relatives and friends to help introduce you, and maybe you can find a psychological counselor who suits you; Wait, in short, you should know that you can do something to find psychological counselors whose information and cognition are out of date. When you start to act, all kinds of negative emotions in your heart will naturally dissolve slowly, because sometimes the enemy of all kinds of negative emotions is action.