You want to know that it is good to talk more about psychological counseling, but why did my child get worse after going to psychological counseling? The following is what I recommend to you. Why did the child get worse after going to psychological counseling?
Special symptoms and the maturity of counselors
Every case is different, and some symptoms have their uncontrollable development. Such as major depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder or sudden mental illness.
The treatment of depression is a complicated process with high risk and rapid change. In particular, the treatment of depression has seen a turning point, and everyone is relieved and feels that they have finally seen hope. At this time, the case owner suddenly committed suicide. There may be new pressures and blows. Another reason is that people didn't commit suicide before because they didn't have the strength to take any action when they were deeply depressed. Death requires courage and strength. When the treatment of depression improves, they have strength, but they can take action.
Sudden mental illness is also beyond the control of psychological counselors. Maybe the patient didn't have mental illness at the time of consultation, but it broke out soon.
Of course, if you are an experienced and mature consultant, these situations can be relatively better prevented, but there is no guarantee of 100%.
I once attended a course of a well-known crisis intervention expert and heard him tell a suicide case. The teacher's professional level is quite high and his experience is very rich. However, a case he handled achieved good results, and according to the assessment, it was within the safety range. In desperation, during the Spring Festival holiday, the case owner committed suicide. The teacher told this case to tell us that there is no 100% at any time, and we must learn to let it go if we try our best.
In short, there is nothing wrong with trying to find an experienced consultant.
Psychological counseling is not a package.
Psychological counseling is not a package, otherwise it will go in a good direction the first time, and there will be absolutely no problem.
This sounds a bit frustrating, so what else should I do for psychological counseling?
First of all, in the process of your consultation, you can't master new and effective methods immediately, and your old model has not been removed. Even if you encounter the same problem, you can't master and use it right away.
Just like every time I talk about communication skills, some parents at the scene always think, wow, this is really simple and easy to use! Then go back and try it right away. If the effect is not good, say that the technology is not good. However, I don't know that the teacher is the introduction and kung fu is a personal reason. In addition, just learn a skill, how to use it well? Learning to ride a bike takes hours or days to practice n times and wrestle many times! If communication skills are so easy to master, there are so many interesting things in life!
Even simple communication skills require complete mastery of methods. However, some parents think they have mastered the golden sentence when they find it, while others think it is not important, which is related to personal emotions and habits. It's rough to use, so it's naturally unnecessary.
In other words, you really don't think it's important enough, you don't pay enough attention to it, and of course the effect is not good.
Secondly, the life you face is dynamic, and new problems will appear. Some problems have superposition effect, and the effect in consultation is not enough to deal with complex situations.
Especially adolescent children.
The development of adolescent children is a drastic change, and their emotions fluctuate. If parents' anxiety and expectations are too high, can't they give their children a time and demand? Effective immediately? This is very unrealistic.
Psychological counseling for adolescent children has another particularity, because the instability of adolescence itself determines that even if the child consults several times, he may suddenly stop, stop consulting and get into trouble again. This situation is not entirely related to the consultant's working ability, but to the particularity of adolescent children, which tests parents' patience. Of course, experienced consultants will take preventive measures in advance to remind parents how to deal with such a situation.
This situation is the same in other consulting projects.
Life is changing rapidly, and we face great pressure every day. If there are still special problems, it is not easy to maintain a relatively stable emotional level. In addition, psychological counseling itself is a process, which will be clearly presented through repeated counseling and nourishment.
In the simplest sense, your problems never formed overnight. Your old model has been established for decades, but you expect one or several psychological consultations to solve and change it? Unrealistic expectations are bound to be disappointed.
Of course, it doesn't mean endless consultation. When you feel that the consultant is not suitable for you, or that the effect is not satisfactory after several persistence, it is recommended to communicate frankly with the consultant, and then make adjustments or change to another consultant.
Matching degree with consultants
The consultant you meet doesn't match your question, and may not be good at the direction of the question you want to consult.
If so, I suggest you change to a consultant, get to know more before consulting, have a brief communication with the consultant, and truly reflect your problems, which will help you find a matching consultant better.
Generally speaking, reading the articles of consultants, introducing friends and getting to know consultants through lectures can help you find the right consultants more efficiently.
The article is presented internally, and the viewpoint, attitude and personality can be understood. It is easier for counselors to understand the characteristics and understanding of the problem through words.
The introduction of friends is generally reliable, and going to psychological counseling is a private matter (most people don't have the courage to say that they have seen a psychiatrist), and they are willing to recommend you enough understanding and trust, at least they won't lie to you. But I suggest that you still need to know whether this consultant is suitable for you, and you can know clearly before consulting.
Teaching is also one aspect. First of all, you can understand the consultant's concept and feel the consultant's style through the course content. Compared with general consultation, you always meet the consultant on the day of consultation, which is a kind of understanding in advance.
Of course, some well-known lecturers may not be suitable for you, and some lecturers only talk about theory and don't do clinical work, which is definitely not suitable; What is another kind of lecturer? Repeater? What TA says is memorized, or often said, and understood thoroughly, but it may not be effective when it comes to real understanding or consulting to solve problems.
When you ask questions on the spot, you can further judge by the lecturer's response. Some lecturers don't leave time for asking questions, probably because they haven't prepared relevant knowledge, which also shows that the lecturers' knowledge reserves and experience are limited. Some only talk about theory, which is high enough, but it is superficial and has no actual case experience. You can make a choice according to your own experience and intuition.
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