How to manage a happy marriage and family? Family harmony is influenced by many factors. Only by respecting and caring for each other can there be a good family relationship and a good family atmosphere. Let's share with you how to run a happy marriage and family.
How to manage a happy marriage and family 1 Whether it is a couple or a husband and wife, their feelings are mutual.
Women sometimes ask for it. If a married husband gives you all his salary, it is unreasonable for him to spend money with you on various festivals and buy you gifts as a surprise. Sometimes we have to look back and think about how much we have done for each other. We need love and care, and the other person needs these emotional needs. Therefore, feelings are mutual. Don't just want to take it, but also give your lover more care.
Give each other enough space.
Many marriages break up because of various constraints: colleagues can't go home after dinner, friends go shopping together and call home one after another, even eating with colleagues of the opposite sex ... this is not love, not even stupid love, but selfish performance.
You can give both sides more space. Women can go shopping. Men can eat, drink and play mahjong with friends ... so that two people will not quarrel because of trivial matters, resulting in emotional damage. Some people's feelings are suitable for two people to be together, and some people's feelings can't meet each other, and they quarrel as soon as they meet. In this case, we should give each other more space and adjust our emotions so that both sides can reflect.
Be tolerant.
Quarrels are inevitable in marriage, and most of these quarrels are "what is public power and what is mother-in-law's right", and no amount of words can solve the problem. Before marriage, family of origin and his wife lived in different environments and ways. Since we can get married, we should pay more love, tolerate and tolerate each other. Time will wear away the edges and corners of two people. This is the adaptation process that marriage needs.
Enhance your attraction.
There is a saying that two people left at the same time, but you didn't go to the second floor until he reached the 10 floor. Then he saw a better scenery. Would he like to go back to the second floor to see the scenery he had seen? Therefore, don't stop learning in marriage, always enrich yourself, at least respect yourself, pay attention to improving your ability, and make people look brand-new forever.
A happy marriage depends on two people running together. In the day-to-day love life, the shortcomings that husband and wife originally wanted to cover up will be exposed one by one. Marriage is different from love, and marriage needs the maintenance of all kinds of feelings. I also hope that everyone will tolerate each other more in marriage, give each other more space, constantly improve themselves, create surprises for themselves, and also give Ta a surprise …
How to run a happy marriage and family 2 1, how to run a happy family, we must first change our ideas. Now that we are married or ready to get married, we will no longer live alone or fall in love. We should put the overall situation of the family first and put ourselves in the family's life planning or career planning. We must establish long-term goals and short-term plans for the family in managing the family and marriage, so that husband and wife can establish the same development direction. In a sense, running a marriage and family is similar to enterprise management, and both need a development direction and planning, so that both husband and wife can unify their thoughts and work hard in one direction.
For example, if you don't buy a house before marriage and want to buy a house, make a plan to buy a house together. Apart from the basic expenses of family life every month, how much is left as mortgage for the house? With the family purchase plan, a few years later, you can also take out the house plan funds to mortgage a house. Therefore, it is very important for couples to run a family in family planning! !
To run a happy family, husband and wife should treat each other sincerely, and be honest with each other when they meet anything, so there is no need to hide it. Because we want to be together, we should let each other know who they really are, so as to better understand each other's personality in family life and better handle the relationship during the running-in period of marriage. In marriage, we should be considerate of each other and care about each other's daily life and eating habits. In the life of husband and wife, the running-in of living habits is very important.
For example, couples live on the issue of eating, and what the other person likes and dislikes, which requires the other person to integrate into this eating habit. It doesn't mean that you want to eat, and if the other person doesn't like it, you won't cook what the other person likes. It's not good. The key is to see how everyone balances. For example, housework is the same. You should also balance how to do housework. Is it all-inclusive by one party, or is it shared by * * *, or who has time to do it in turn? Husband and wife can consult each other.
To run a happy family, when the husband and wife have different opinions or contradictions, they should quarrel as little as possible and adopt the attitude of consultation. After such a good habit is formed, many problems or contradictions will follow, and the big things will be reduced and ignored. When there is a conflict between husband and wife, don't make a hullabaloo about, even domestic violence, because it is useless to argue again. What is important is to come up with a solution quickly to reduce losses or make up for mistakes.
In the life of husband and wife, it is inevitable that both parents live together for a long time or both parents come to live and play. There is the handling of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In dealing with the relationship between parents, both husband and wife should respect each other's parents, which is the premise for husband and wife to run a good family. For example, a man and a woman's parents can play, or relatives and friends can play, and the other party will put on a look or show it when they are unhappy. If both sides want to respect each other's parents, then one needs to set an example, warmly receive each other's parents, and let the other side see that they are filial to each other's parents, then naturally the other side will follow suit.
How to manage a happy marriage and family 3. A happy marriage needs management.
Yu Zeng, founder of New Oriental, once said: "Enterprises need to operate, and marriage also needs to operate. If you manage well, you will have a happy family. "
In fact, if you want a happy marriage, you must first learn to operate. Because happiness is a kind of mood, a kind of self-feeling pleasure, happiness is not a commodity, not bought with money.
As the saying goes: marriage needs management, sincere love is not necessarily happy, only passion is not necessarily happy. Marriage needs careful management, and a happy marriage is managed bit by bit.
So, how does marriage get happiness through management? In fact, there are five aspects to running a marriage.
Running a marriage requires persistence in trust.
Trust is the foundation of marriage and the passport for both husband and wife to go through the marriage journey. Without trust, marriage cannot entrust life and dependence. It is not uncommon for distrust between husband and wife to lead to the breakdown of marriage.
Othello, the hero of Shakespeare's Othello, found his first gift to his wife Desdemona-a handkerchief embroidered with strawberry patterns. In another man's room, he concluded that his wife was a "prostitute who is a man's best friend". Under the provocation of slanderers, his eyes were blinded by the fire of doubt, and Desdemona, a beautiful and chaste wife, was personally killed in a rage, which staged an eternal tragedy.
In fact, in our real life, we can always see the tragedy of Othello. The wife is with her old classmates, and the husband suspects that her feelings are derailed; The husband came home a few hours late, and the wife wondered if he had a lover outside. The husband is away on a business trip, and the wife suspects that the husband is misbehaving; The wife comes from her hometown, and the husband suspects that her wife secretly gives money to her hometown.
It can be seen that once the marriage life loses the basis of trust, contradictions and conflicts are inevitable, and finally the husband and wife turn against each other and have to divorce.
After all, trust is the cornerstone of a happy marriage. With it, the relationship between husband and wife will continue.
Running a marriage requires sincere efforts.
One cannot live without love. Beautiful love is not only romantic, but also touching. It can make people learn to be sincere and learn to pay.
Yang Lan once said that marriage needs another bond besides love, and the strongest one is not children, not money, but spiritual growth, which was a partnership at that time. When you are most helpless and weak, he holds up your chin, straightens your back, and orders you to be strong and stay with you to share your destiny. At that time, apart from love, there were also sincere loyalty, tacit understanding and unforgettable kindness between you.
In marriage, love and affection have various manifestations, but the most important thing is that you are willing to entrust your sincerity to each other, and you can get it with your sincerity. Only two people who treat each other sincerely will stick to their love and strive to create a happy marriage.
Running a marriage requires learning to be tolerant.
Two people in marriage have lived together for a long time, and it is inevitable that there will be bumps and bumps. Therefore, tolerance in the trivial details of daily life can better reflect the sincerity of love. Life is dull, and after the passion fades, it is followed by a more practical life. In actual daily life, the differences between husband and wife are objective. We need to be tolerant of each other's shortcomings, sincerely tolerate each other's shortcomings, and need mutual understanding and consideration to create harmony and happiness for the family. Such a marriage is beautiful and long-lasting.
Running a marriage needs romance.
In life, romance is not as real as daily necessities, but it is also an episode in marriage. Romance can bring surprises to ordinary life and bring couples closer together. Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang have a very romantic attitude towards married life.
When Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang fought against the Rightists, they were once sent to local farms to work together. At that time, in that remote mountain village, they lived in different dormitories for men and women and could only meet once a week. But they are still as romantic as ever, often visiting relatives and friends in the snow quietly like young people, trysting across the stream, and getting together occasionally, just like newlyweds.
Romance can't be bought with money, and you don't have to use expensive things to win each other's surprises. As long as you are careful, some casual little things and small moves can also achieve the effect of creating romance and small surprises, and can make the other person feel warm love. Therefore, the management of marriage needs to create romance and add some preservatives to the plain marriage.
There is no need for meaningless comparison in running a marriage.
The essence of comparison is jealousy and vanity, and it is an endless desire. Blind comparison in marriage is not desirable, it can only encourage people's vanity, even jealousy and jealousy, leading to the distortion of the soul and the disintegration of the family.
In life, many people like to compare their married life with others, and sometimes even complain to their other half: "Xiao Zhang's husband next door is so tall, how can you earn enough money to support your family?" "Lao Li's wife washes her feet every day, but you always let me wait on you!" Similar comparisons are almost everywhere. This unnecessary comparison will ruin the happy life of your family.
In fact, in our marriage life, we don't have to ask too much of our own marriage, and we don't waste time comparing with others. We don't make unnecessary comparisons. We should race ourselves. Proceeding from reality and based on our family situation, if we are better than in the past and live better than yesterday, this is progress. Instead of enviing how perfect other people's marriages are, we should try our best to improve our own marriage and make it more harmonious and beautiful.
Marriage is not the grave of love, it needs to be managed, and a happy marriage and family needs to be managed with care.