1.？ Adjust one's mentality and dispel one's emotions
Breaking up with your lover must be a very painful and uncomfortable thing. In the face of ta's departure, you may feel sad, wronged and reluctant to part with each other; You may also feel angry and unwilling. Obviously, you must stay together all the time. How can the other party just leave? You may even lose confidence, feel sorry for yourself, wonder if you are not good enough, and let the other person leave. It's normal to have these emotions after breaking up. First of all, you should allow yourself to have negative emotions and vent them in time.
But if you want to save each other, these negative emotions will make you look at your feelings with personal emotions and dissatisfaction with each other. It is easy for you to take some wrong ways to save each other, such as pestering each other, or abusing yourself to gain sympathy, or forcing each other with words, which will push each other further.
Therefore, the first thing to do to save each other is to adjust their mentality, get rid of their negative emotions, calm themselves down, treat their feelings objectively, and then consider how to save each other.
2.？ Re-examine this relationship and find the root of the breakup.
Generally speaking, the reason for breaking up is often not the real idea in the heart, nor the real reason for breaking up, but probably just the other party looking for an excuse to break up.
Therefore, if you want to get back together, you can't just look at the reasons that the other person said for leaving you, but also carefully recall what problems you had when you were together, such as when the other person showed helplessness or impatience, why they often quarreled, and what abnormal behavior the other person had. Reflecting on these, you can find the real reason for breaking up and then prescribe the right medicine.
3.？ Grasp the best opportunity to recover and master the skills of recovery.
Generally speaking, the shorter the breakup time, the easier it is to recover, because feelings will gradually fade over time. If it takes a long time to recover after breaking up, the other party is likely to have put it down, and the possibility of recovery is even lower. So you should grasp the best time to break up, and it is best to wait until we calm down before acting, and don't hesitate.
In fact, everyone who doesn't want to break up has tried to recover, but because most of the recovery methods adopted are wrong, they rarely succeed. Saving one's lover is not only a matter of heart and sincerity, but also a matter of skill. Everyone's love concept, personality, temper and temperament are different, and the love they have experienced is different. Therefore, there is no one-size-fits-all recovery skill, which needs to vary according to the situation. According to your love situation, the other person's personality and temper, you should take corresponding recovery measures to meet the other person's core demands and gradually promote the relationship between the two.
If you really don't understand the love psychology of girls/boys, can't see through each other's emotional demands, and don't know how to save each other, then tell Lemon about your situation and I'll teach you how to save it.
May your love blossom smoothly and spend the rest of your life with the person you love ~
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