Tourists are in a hurry. The purpose of consultation is to tell me who to choose. So many years of consulting experience and ethics tell me that psychological counselors can't make decisions for visitors without authorization. Otherwise, it is irresponsible to tourists.
So what's my job? Through this confusion, I explore with her: In the past, I was free to fall in love with my ex-husband. What did you like about him at that time? When did the dull and numb life begin? Have you ever tried hard to face such a life? Wait, these are all things that need to be discussed with visitors.
Besides, how is life with your current boyfriend? Will you encounter any difficulties in the future? How to solve it?
Through the discussion of problems, help visitors understand what kind of emotional course they have experienced, their expectations for marriage and their efforts to manage marriage.
Of course, this visitor doesn't want to look back. He just wants to face the bombardment of his ex-husband. Should he go back? So we discussed her feelings about the present. In this discussion, Lili has some ideas about her way of doing things. From the initial eagerness for success, I began to relax. I began to face my true self and what I wanted.
What is the reality you have to face? What is the most important thing to do now?
This case has brought me great challenges. In the face of a visitor who is eager for success, how to help her responsibly as a psychological counselor may face the risk that the visitor will be dissatisfied because he does not understand, and may give you a bad review. However, if the results are given directly, visitors may not have a chance to see what their real marriage life is like. How should they manage their own marriage in the case of differences between the two sides? If they have no experience in running a marriage, what will this divorce remind them of the next marriage?
So this psychological consultation, if it can't get direct results, but can give her some different experiences, will it help her?