Social existence itself is a network interwoven with various interpersonal relationships. No one can exist independently without personal relations and other social relations. Job hunting activities are often accompanied by some kind of personal relationship. On the one hand, we should do things according to "things" (national employment policies, etc.). ); On the other hand, it is inevitably mixed with "humanity" and "human feelings". People often say that "acquaintances are easy to handle affairs", "friends are all over the world, and they are not afraid to go anywhere", and "relying on parents at home and friends outside", which can not only be understood as derogatory terms, but also has a positive side. When people get familiar with each other, they will know each other better, and with credibility and affection, they will easily get support and cooperation. Therefore, job seekers should also make use of personal connections in many ways, broaden the job search path, and strive to find a career that suits them.
Extensive contact with people is the source of opportunity. The more extensive the communication, the higher the probability of meeting opportunities. There will be many opportunities in communication with friends. Sometimes even when you are not looking, a word from a friend, a friend's help, a friend's concern and so on. It may become a rare opportunity. Many times, it is the recommendation of friends, the information provided by friends and other help that makes people get rare opportunities.
A friend is on the train, chatting with a man next to him. This man used to be a lawyer. Later, when he got tired of this business, he resigned and started his own company. Now the company is developing very well, and they are chatting very speculatively. After arriving at the destination, they exchanged business cards in a hurry, and friends also asked each other's home address and telephone number. A few months later, my friend's company closed down and he lost his job. I have been looking for a job for several months, but I still have no landing. He is very anxious. One day, he suddenly remembered the man he met on the train, so he called him, explained his situation and asked if there was a suitable position there. Although there is no shortage of people in that man's company at present, he introduced another company to his friend and asked him to go for an interview. In this way, he found a new job.
Some people say: "before the age of 30, you make money by profession, and after the age of 30, you make money by relationships." "Visible the importance of interpersonal relationships. In an information company's investigation on "which factors have the greatest impact on career", "personal ability" is recognized as the first factor; Secondly, 30.77% of the respondents believe that opportunities play a decisive role. Interpersonal factors ranked third, 17, and 35% of the respondents felt the importance of contacts. In fact, these three are not contradictory, and often have a cumulative effect of doubling. If you have the ability, and there are good interpersonal advantages besides your ability, the result is often that you get several times of gains for nothing.
Generally, people who can create myths and achieve great success in choosing jobs have one thing in common, that is, they often think more and think deeper than others.
A college student in California is eager to find a job. He almost rushed into a newspaper and said to the manager, "Do you need a good editor?" The other party replied: "No need. What about the reporter? " "It's not necessary. Where is the compositor? No, we don't have any vacancies now! Then you must need this thing! " College students took out an exquisite sign from their briefcase, which read: "No employment for the time being when the quota is full". The manager looked at the sign, smiled and immediately called the boss to tell him about it. Then, the manager smiled and said, "If you like, please come to work in our advertising distribution department." Later, the young man became an excellent manager of this newspaper. The humor of this college student shows that he firmly believes that the doors of all units are always open to real talents, and "not recruiting for the time being" is only for mediocre people. At this time, he got in touch with the manager and boss of the newspaper. If college students talk endlessly about their experiences and abilities, the manager may not even listen.
Similar examples abound. Wilbur, a steel tycoon, also broke his leg when he applied for a job in his early years. One day, he crustily skin of head and walked into the steel company. Facing the key figures who manipulate the decision-making power, the dialogue began: "Please sit down!" There is no chair or stool. Confused by this little trap, many people will say, "Never mind." Wilbur didn't. He said thank you, and then borrowed a chair from the next office. Although the action is small, the connotation is very wide.
If you look closely, you will find that the difference between success and failure is actually very small. Success is not just failure, some subtle words, some wonderful conversations, a borrowed chair ... these extra contents reflect your inner persistence, tenacity and positive attitude and help you seize the opportunities around you. Opportunities are closely related to our lives. She is like a beautiful and strange angel who suddenly comes to your side. There is no need for flattery, but it must be treated with caution. If you don't pay attention, she will walk away, and no matter how much you sigh, it can't be redeemed. As the old saying goes, on the way to failure, there are missed opportunities everywhere. Be prepared for luck to come in through the front door, and don't ignore the opportunity to sneak in through the back window. So, what should we do? The following suggestions are for reference:
(1) When recommending yourself, pay attention to the needs of the other party. When recommending yourself, you should pay attention to each other's needs and feelings, convince each other according to your own needs and feelings, and let them accept it. Xiao Fei, a female student in the journalism department of a university in Beijing, has good academic performance and strong professional ability. I heard that national newspapers are very important. First, she spent a day drilling into the library to study newspapers, and then walked into the office of the editor-in-chief of the newspaper with her resume and works. After reading it, the editor-in-chief asked, "Why did you come to our newspaper? What do you think is special and insufficient about our newspaper? " ... several times, editor-in-chief, as a result, Phillips got what he wanted. Phillips' success lies in being able to pay attention to each other's needs and be accepted.
(2) When you recommend yourself, you should attract others' attention. When you recommend yourself, you should first attract others' attention. If others don't care about your existence, you can't recommend yourself. So, how to get people's attention? The key is to have its own characteristics. The so-called characteristics here are not diplomas. Which unit is qualified or unqualified, as long as the recipient feels that it has characteristics.
(3) Grasp the essentials of selling yourself face to face. Through interviews, people can recommend themselves, persuade each other, reach an agreement, exchange information and eliminate misunderstandings. When introducing yourself in person, you should pay attention to and abide by the following rules: (1) Be prepared according to the interviewee and content; Speak freely, speak boldly and overcome psychological barriers; Grasp the appropriate opportunity, including finding out the situation, observing the expression, analyzing the psychology, improvising, etc.
(4) When recommending yourself, you should have the flexibility to wear clothes and hats, each with its own advantages. So is the demand for talents. If you still can't convince the other party according to their needs and feelings and can't be accepted by the other party, then you have to reconsider your choice. If the expectation is too high and your eyes are only on the popular units, you should lower the expectation in time and keep your eyes on several units; You can also recommend yourself to an industry related to or associated with your professional skills. O 'Neill, a consultant, said, "If you have the skills to repair aircraft engines, you can turn it into the skills to repair cars or trucks." (5) Pay attention to controlling emotions when introducing yourself. People's emotions have three manifestations: excitement, calmness and low tide. In the process of self-recommendation, being good at controlling one's emotions is an important manifestation of self-image. Emotional uncertainty can easily leave a bad impression. In order to control his excitement, Julius, an American psychologist, put forward three interesting suggestions: "Speak in a low voice, speak slowly and hold your chest out".
(6) recommend yourself to the other party with a resume or application form. In order to attract the attention of the other party, you should do the following:
(1) Get to know each other as much as possible, and find out their requirements and whether they are qualified.
Collect documents and materials that can prove your identity, resume, characteristics, etc. , help each other to evaluate your quality.
③ Resumes should be realistic, concise and to the point, and should not be exaggerated.
(4) The handwriting should be correct and clear, and don't scribble. Otherwise, even if it is difficult to read, it is difficult for the other party to be interested in you.
(7) When you recommend yourself, you should use publicity flexibly. When doing publicity, you should briefly summarize your resume, talents, inventions, contribution goals, ideals, hobbies, etc. Send a short autobiography to the units and departments that you think may be interested in you. You can also pass it on through acquaintances, relatives and friends, and you can also recommend yourself to the units in need through advertisements.
(8) Pay attention to conversation skills when recommending yourself. In order to successfully sell themselves to employers, job seekers should try their best to use their speech skills to attract recruitment hosts and learn to express their intentions in an orderly manner. This includes: choosing appropriate language and arranging appropriate speech content and order; Pay full attention to each other's reaction and adjust your words flexibly; Don't use "non-ideal words" that may damage the influence of discourse, such as meaningless "hmm", "er" and "this", which will destroy the coherence of discourse and make the other party feel anxious; Pay attention to the use of qualifiers such as "but", "but", "possible" and "probably". These determiners, together with the body language of bowing your head and flattering your eyebrows, can easily hurt your credibility and reduce the value of your speech; Use less or no technical terms and offensive names that are easy to alienate people, and don't say serious things in a joking tone. These inappropriate expressions will make the other person feel that you are "unrealistic" and "unlovable", which will ultimately affect employment.
It is also important to listen attentively in the interview conversation. Keep your eyes on the triangle of the host's facial expression, listen carefully to each other, and express your attitude with a smile and a nod or simple words from time to time. Such as "yes! What you said is very reasonable. " "Really?" And so on, indicating that you are listening attentively, indicating that you respect each other.
When speaking in the interview, we should also pay attention to the clear and beautiful voice. Voice and intonation represent a person's temperament, accomplishment and cultural connotation. In the face of people who meet for the first time, the speed of speech and the depth of voice sometimes convey a person's inner thoughts better than the actual content. Therefore, when we first meet and talk, if we can use beautiful and clear voice to make the pronunciation and intonation match the conversation content properly, we will leave a confident and energetic impression on the employer, and then the chances of being admitted will be greatly improved.
At the end of the interview, you should politely express your direct feelings, emphasize your gratitude to the interview opportunity and the host, and leave politely. For example, "Director Ma, I am very grateful to have this opportunity to ask you face to face today. Thank you very much for Director Li's speech. I hope to be employed by your company in the near future. The supplementary materials you need will be sent to me as soon as I come back. Please give me a chance. Can I go now? Goodbye! " You can also write a short message to the interviewer immediately after you go home to express the same thanks, so as to deepen his impression.
(1) Keep a certain distance from the examiner. There is always a distance between people, and everyone has their own space. During the interview, candidates and examiners must keep a certain distance and leave appropriate space. Improper distance will make the examiner feel uncomfortable. If there are many candidates, the employer will generally arrange the interview room in advance and fix the position where the candidates sit. Don't move the fixed chair after entering the interview room. Some people like to show intimacy and always move their chairs forward. As we all know, examiners hate this kind of behavior because they don't like others sitting too close. If there are few candidates, the examiner may let you sit on the same sofa. At this time, you have to define the distance. Too close or too far is not good. If you get too close, it is impolite to touch the object. If the female candidate and the male examiner get too close, the examiner will think that this is a frivolous woman and should not be hired. Sitting too far will make the examiner feel alienated and affect the communication effect.
(2) Be sure to have a good posture. Applicants must have a good and perfect posture, so that the communication and contact in the interview can go smoothly. If you are sitting in a straight-backed chair, don't "collapse" on the back of the chair, keep your back straight and don't bend over; Don't shake your calves; Hold your head high, but don't hold your head high and your neck stiff, which will make you look like a zombie and give people a cold feeling. If you sit on a soft sofa, try to control your body not to sink, and lean your spine against the back of the chair. Whether you are sitting on a hard chair or a soft sofa, you should keep a relaxed and comfortable sitting position, put your hands flat on your legs and look straight at the examiner. The most taboo sitting posture in an interview is crossing your legs. In daily life, many people will cross their legs unconsciously, and often do so unconsciously as soon as they sit down. So when interviewing, you must consciously remind yourself not to cross your legs, or the examiner will think you are arrogant and uncultured.
(3) The attitude should be natural, cordial, friendly and positive. In order to do this, one should smile. Smile is a silent language and a good way to communicate between people. A knowing, kind and sincere smile will make your face more beautiful and kind. Smiling will make the interviewer friendly to you, and friendliness is one of the best conditions for a successful interview. If you keep a straight face from beginning to end during the interview, you look as cold as ice. How can we make the interviewer feel kind to you? Second, pay attention to eye contact. When interviewing, you should look at the examiner and look directly into the other person's eyes to show your attention. If you look around, either at the ceiling or at the floor, the examiner will inevitably think that you are too cold, or you are half-hearted. It's hard to concentrate in an interview. How can work efficiency not be doubted? Third, don't answer the question in a hurry. Let the interviewer ask the whole question first, and then give yourself a few seconds to think clearly before answering. When you speak, you should be calm and supercilious. It's impolite not to say much, so excited that you are foaming at the mouth.
Fourth, don't turn the interview conversation into an argument or an argument. During the interview, the examiner is likely to disagree with you on a certain issue. Don't be too defensive in this case. If you always use a blunt tone to refute "why not?" ""that's not right. Whether you like it or not, that's what I think. "This topic will definitely be boring. Remember, the purpose of the interview is to get a job, not to compare with the examiner in the conversation. You won the argument, but you lost your job. It's really not worth the candle. (4) Some indecent gestures should be avoided, such as digging ears, wiping eyes, brushing teeth, wiping nose, sneezing and clearing throat, which are rude and annoying. Candidates should try to avoid these embarrassing little moves in the interview. As long as you realize that these small operations will miss your own major events, you can completely avoid these small problems.
You can cross your hands on your knees and fondle the palm of your other hand with your thumb nails, so that your hands will be controlled. Even if sneezing is difficult to control, you should blurt out "I'm sorry" after sneezing. "In this way, the conversation atmosphere destroyed by sneezing can be restored immediately.
Making faces is also an indecent little gesture. Some people's reaction to what others say is always manifested in their faces, or surprise, or regret, or anger, or worry. When expressing these emotions, they always squint, blink, frown, stare and shrug their noses, which is making faces. This kind of grimace may have a good effect in normal interpersonal communication, but it is harmful in the interview and should be overcome.
There is also a little trick that is to scratch the scalp, make hair and tickle to cover up the inner tension and discomfort. It is not difficult to overcome this trouble. Keep a relaxed sitting position and hold your arms smoothly. If you have a briefcase, you can hold your bag or shake hands. Don't chew gum and don't smoke.