What does life care about?

People in the world, there are always many obstacles. Filial piety to parents' children, caring for parents' health and happiness; Some people like to make money, the rise and fall of stocks, the profit and loss of business, and all the gains and losses make him care very much. Some people care about other people's words, others' eyes, others' praise and criticism, and some people care about their friends' sincerity. "Care" is called "persistence" in Buddhism. If a person is compassionate and restrained everywhere, where can there be true love, asking for big money and greedy for small money? Where can there be dignity? Care about the impermanence of spring, summer, autumn and winter, care about the impermanence of heaven, earth, sun and moon, care about the cold and warm reality of the world and human feelings, care about the unnecessary disturbance of right and wrong gains and losses ... What do you think is happy in life? Care about being respected by others: everyone wants to be respected by others. If others despise themselves, it is the most unbearable. In fact, it is not important to be looked down upon by others. What is important is to value yourself. The so-called "a gentleman who is not heavy is not arrogant." If you respect yourself, others will respect you; If you don't respect yourself, even if you are a senior official and even as expensive as the president, people don't respect you. People should be respected and virtuous. Most people value money, fame and fortune, and their value is limited. Paying attention to morality, virtue and righteousness is a valuable life. Second, care about being understood by others: when people meet, you will know each other. When people get along with others in the world, they all hope that others can understand you. In fact, it is not easy for people to know each other through their stomachs. If you want people to know you, you have to ask, have you shown such a desire? How can others understand you if you don't care about each other? So it's easier to ask others to know you than to know others yourself. Understanding is a mutual thing. People should understand each other, not each other, or at least don't misunderstand each other. Third, care about being recognized by others: we are often rejected by others, and it is really wrong to think for ourselves. I didn't offend him or hurt him. Why did he refuse me? Why did he refuse you? Because you didn't treat him well, of course you will. We are excluded from speaking, doing things, living, starting a business and emigrating ... Sometimes, we are flawed and naturally excluded. If you have special abilities, you will be rejected. You may not want to be rejected everywhere. In fact, the world is of course unfair. Being rejected is a grievance, but it can also be improved. For example, if you are modest and honest with others, it will naturally reduce others' rejection of you and gradually gain others' recognition. Fourth, care about being accepted by others: my kindness is not accepted by others; My kindness to him disgusted him. I gave a gift, but he didn't accept it; I praised him, but he was ungrateful, even blaming me for talking too much; I tried to support him, supported him, and he refused one by one. People with this temperament deserve sympathy. But as far as Buddhism is concerned, it is not unreasonable, because fate does not exist, so people are excluded. Everything is easy to get together, and it is easy to be accepted by people. Make more contacts. ? First, I care about being despised. Actually, just respect yourself. Second, I care about being misunderstood. Why don't you try to be considerate and understand others, and others will understand you in time. Third, care about being rejected. As long as people are modest and sincere, they will naturally make progress. Fourth, care about not being accepted. Knowing that "a wide margin is good" is the best way to improve. (nebula)