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Don't be too kind in the workplace. This sentence is so right, I agree so much.
I will talk about my views from the following aspects.
1, blind kindness
In the workplace, blind kindness, such people have no goals, always cater to others, and even blindly please others, not confident, and extremely kind to others. On the surface, being kind to others is actually unprincipled, sometimes hurting others, but at the same time, those colleagues are used to your kindness to him, taking it for granted, wasting a lot of time, leading to their own work not being done well, and ultimately not benefiting anyone.
2. Kindness without choice
In the workplace, kindness is the duty of being a man, but everyone has different outlook on life, values and world outlook, and their working attitude in the workplace is also different. Therefore, kindness must be chosen. Some people are scheming, good at gossiping, selfish, love to slander others, like to pass the buck, and have no responsibility. You can treat these people selectively. Choosing the object, those who deserve it can choose kind people, those who don't deserve it, those who don't deserve respect, and those who have a sense of boundaries. They can express themselves in a gentle and smooth way instead of refusing and not communicating.
3. Kindness has a sharp edge
The best state in the workplace is the kindness with sharp edges. If you are too kind and lose yourself, colleagues will look down on you and think you are incompetent, and leaders will think you have no future, no ambition and no innovation. If you are kind, help each other in your work, don't blindly accommodate your colleagues, deliberately cater to them, be yourself, be self-disciplined, devote yourself to your work, and accomplish your tasks efficiently and smoothly, which colleagues and leaders want to see.
In short, in the workplace, we should be good at ourselves, be self-disciplined, have principles and a bottom line, never be too kind, blindly kind and paranoid, do no harm, be selective and kind, make people feel comfortable, be good to everyone at work and make their future better.
You really can't be too kind in the workplace. Most of them are about interests, and there is no friendship at all.
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Time flies.
Time flies.
Sunrise and sunset.
Winter goes and spring comes.
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A friend of mine used to work in a foreign-funded factory in Shenzhen. From his mouth, I can know that people should not be too kind.
This factory is run by Europeans. Let's talk about the closing of the factory in the later period.
The factory is mainly managed by two China people, both of whom are vice presidents of the company. A is responsible for production, procurement, PMC and warehouse, and B is responsible for research and development, quality and personnel. Among them, the friend pony is in the B tube quality.
Vice President A is a typical person in Jiangsu and Zhejiang, driven by interests and insatiable. Taking advantage of his position, making false invoices and taking kickbacks from suppliers have gained a lot of benefits over the years. Only he knows the details.
Vice President B looks very kind and takes care of the pony. Later, Pony learned that AB was a classmate.
A often raves at staff meetings about how powerful he is, how others have problems, and colleagues who have left the company will also be attacked by him at the meeting, saying that there are any problems. Typical bitch with archway.
Two partners of AB opened a parts processing workshop outside, and some parts of the factory were processed by the factory (HY) jointly opened by AB. AB two people regard the iron drum operated by the company as ordinary, and A makes the workshop use it to ship whatever garbage parts. Pony didn't know the ins and outs of that processing factory until he left his job. I always thought that B was good to himself because he worked hard. Almost everything at work will be returned to B. Anyone who has worked in a factory will know that there are actually many problems with the quality of incoming materials. Many times Pony found that the parts of HY processing factory were defective, and the result of B treatment was that the workshop chose to use them, and A also agreed to let the workshop handle them. So Pony has been covering for them for years. Pony is kind and should have known there was something fishy, but she didn't get compensation when the factory closed down. I lost my job and didn't get any benefits.
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Some people in the workplace use your kindness to fulfill their gray interests. Please keep your eyes open.
Sister Meng, it's me. Let me answer this question.
I don't agree to confuse the workplace with the arena.
It stands to reason that in the workplace, only you need to cooperate with others in this workplace, or there is a place where you need to finish your work independently.
But at present, in our environment, the competition is fierce, and some old workers bully novices. In order to avoid being bullied, those novices learned from the internet or elders that Mashan was ridden and others were bullied.
Everyone in the workplace is afraid of others. Old workers are prepared to be replaced, and novices are eager to grow up as soon as possible and want to replace old workers. Therefore, it is derived that in this workplace, they need to line up and hold a group to keep warm.
Once you are on the wrong team, you will be excluded. Newcomers don't know how deep the workplace is. They just remember to fight back when they are bullied. They think that fighting back will make them look annoying, so that sentence: don't be a kind person in the workplace, it is popular.
My understanding of kindness is: I have empathy, I can bear losses, I can accommodate different people's opinions, I can clearly express my thoughts, I have the ability not to cross the bottom line of others and I have the ability to protect my own boundaries.
I hope that today's young people will not regard old workers as rivals after entering the workplace. On the contrary, their experiences will help you grow up quickly. People should be more understanding and tolerant, and don't think so badly of others.
Kindness is a person's best protective clothing.
I quite agree!
And I hope to add, "In the workplace, don't be too kind, you must learn to arm yourself."
The workplace is a field of red fruits. You become colleagues with others, not because of the same interests or goals, but because you work for the same boss, that's all.
Not only that, you and your colleagues are also competing with each other. The cake is so big that whoever you give it will rob it.
Can kindness bring you more and bigger cakes?
I have always stressed that the workplace must come up with ideas and routines for struggle. You're here to fight, not to be quiet. If you want to fight, you must learn to eat meat and hunt, just like wild animals, in order to survive.
Look at the animals on the African savannah. Who is kind and who is innocent? Good and innocent people will be eaten.
The workplace is so cruel.
Hello, I'm Ma Bao Xiao Lu, and I'm glad to answer this question: "Don't be too kind in the workplace, why?" First of all, I agree with this sentence.
Workplace is the place where people work, and the essence is the place where interests exchange and compete. You can't be too kind in the workplace. What you need in the workplace is a talent who can bring more benefits to the company, and an ambition to plan for yourself and the future.
The ancients said: "People are good at being bullied, while horses are good at being ridden", which makes sense. Being too kind in the workplace will bring the following consequences:
1. Give whatever you want, others will take it for granted; 2. Always keep silent when encountering things, others will think that you are good at bullying people, and you will ignore your feelings and not see your existence in the future; 3. Don't tell the truth in the workplace. People are separated. You regard others as your confidants, but others are using your goodness to hurt you. 4. Don't be an unsung hero, you should be rewarded for what you have given, so that your contribution will be more meaningful.
It doesn't mean not to be too kind in the workplace, but to leave kindness behind and be a villain. But to be a wise person, to be flexible, to be patient, to be tough, and to be a person with a stand, so as to survive in the workplace more easily. The above is my opinion, I hope it will help you, thank you!
I am a very kind and enthusiastic person. After reading the question, I still want to warn newcomers in the workplace: "Don't be too kind in the workplace!"
When I first entered the workplace, I was 22 or 23 years old. I am warm, kind and helpful. I get along well with my colleagues, such as my brothers and sisters in the neighborhood or my uncles and aunts. Just then, my boss, who is older than me 10, suddenly said to me, "Colleagues are both friends and enemies!" I still remember his tone of voice. To tell the truth, his words came like a bolt from the blue, which made my heart tremble! Later, I repeatedly thought about the meaning of this sentence, and I have always used it to restrain my words and deeds.
Slowly, I really understand the truth of the sentence "colleagues are both friends and enemies", but the kind nature is hard to change. Once, a young colleague and her husband went to the office after a physical examination and were unhappy. She suddenly came to me and quietly told me that she couldn't conceive, because there was too little estrogen and her husband liked children very much, which was super depressing. I immediately showed my sister's demeanor and tried to comfort her. "Don't worry, it's all small problems. If it's missing, make it up. Now medicine is so developed ... "Then I recommended two authoritative hospitals for her to treat quickly. Her husband is a sea returnee and has a good family. I understand her concern.
I don't know how long it took, and I didn't ask her about it again. One day, an old lady who was not close to her said that she was pregnant, and I was very happy to hear that. When I came back to the office, I met another colleague who had a very good relationship with her and immediately asked her if it was true. She pretended to be at a loss and couldn't speak clearly.
The next day, my little colleague changed the poor way he talked to me last time. She asked me with a livid face, "Who told you I was pregnant? I don't even know! How can you talk nonsense everywhere ... ",I just explained, and she immediately looked tough again. Friends, can you understand my feelings at that time? Awkward! Defeat Regret! Shame! In fact, in a few days, the whole unit knew that she was pregnant (not pregnant for more than a year). She gave birth to a child and held a wedding reception. I made an exception and didn't attend or give a gift. Usually, no matter who is in the company, I always give gifts. It is because of my kindness that she dares to treat me like this. I also come to the conclusion from this incident that interpersonal relationships in the workplace are really complicated!
There are still a few things that make me really see the social reality: when the forest is big, there are all kinds of birds! In the workplace, you must remember to mind your mouth and your heart! If you want to say something, think about it first. If you want to do good, first think about whether you can bear the harm in the future. Writing here, I can't help feeling sad, because I really don't want people to get along like this.
There is no need to harm people, and there is no need to prevent people. You can be kind in the workplace, but you must not be too kind.
Kindness is good, but don't be used by others. Whether it's career or life, I'm just too kind in life and career, and I'm used to being bullied by others. I take everything you do for granted. For example, my colleague is a little lazy at work, so I will help clean up. I thought it was nothing. If you cook more, you won't lose a piece of meat. I think so. After a long time, my colleagues are lazy every day and simply leave all their work to me. I didn't say anything or give a report. I thought I was working in the same company anyway, and I didn't want to make too many contradictions. I'm just doing my best. Well, do you call me kind or stupid?
I'm glad to answer your question. The following is my personal experience. Looking back on the first two years, I now feel too accommodating and kind. I used to work in an office. Six people had lunch with colleagues, made a cold dish and cooked noodles. To be friendly, I also want to behave well in front of the leaders. Every time I wash the dishes, I take the initiative to wash all their bowls, chopsticks and pots. They were embarrassed at first, and they thanked you for putting on a show. I was embarrassed to be polite to you, but later I thought it was time. It's winter. Sometimes when I have my period, I can't touch cold water, but I still take it to wash them, and no one takes the initiative. The water is cold and my stomach hurts. I feel uncomfortable after washing. Actually, it's because I'm too talkative, too kind and too abusive. Now I don't work there, and I have no contact with my colleagues and leaders. What's the use? Now I think kindness should apply to places and people, depending on the situation, otherwise I will fall into a very wronged situation. In fact, they dug a hole for themselves. People who are too kind and accommodating will actually suffer a lot in society. Kindness is right, sometimes you have to be a little impatient and know how to refuse, otherwise you will have a hard time.
Kindness doesn't mean that everyone knows your kindness and will give back your kindness. You may be polite once or twice, but after a long time, you will really feel embarrassed and take it for granted.
I am not a saint. I just think that any relationship, any mutual relationship, is healthier, worth living and lasting. Do you agree?
I hope my answer can help you.
See what you do. After all, capitalists do not create value, but exploit workers by means. So in capitalist companies, intrigue is the embodiment of strength, then your kindness is not the embodiment of incompetence?