There is a question on Zhihu: If you go back to 10 years ago, what do you want to say to yourself most?
I wrote below: you are worth waiting for! (You are worth waiting for)
You are none other than us.
We all say that he is worth waiting for, that good things are worth waiting for,
In fact, what is most worth waiting for is ourselves.
2.
My undergraduate classmate went to the United States to study as a graduate student in my junior year, and now he is studying at the University of New South Wales at public expense, and will soon return to China after his doctoral degree. Our friend, his IELTS teacher in high school, planned a 3+2 plan for a 2-year-old baby like my classmates, then went to other countries to study for a doctorate, and then returned to China to teach at a university.
The people who were in writing training camp together in those years published three bestsellers. Last year, they successfully passed the graduate program of Chinese Department of 985 University. This Spring Festival, they brought their girlfriends home to meet their parents. The so-called love career is right. There are brothers, daughters-in-law and successful people around.
My colleagues who worked in the company two years ago now have their own education consulting company in Beijing, serving outstanding students, sending them to the ideal ivory tower and bravely taking the first step in life. There are more than 25 people in the team, and the company ran 500w+ last year.
My classmates who joined the same company after graduation are now the vice factories of the company, organizing and leading the staff by going up one flight of stairs.
Look, compared with them, am I too backward? In countless times of late-night anxiety, especially in this era of information overload and pride in speed and efficiency, we are more likely to lose ourselves.
I used to think so, too, and then I went to talk to them: "Compared with you ..."
At that moment, I suddenly realized that many times, we are envious of their possession and charm, but we can't see their persistence and dedication behind them.
3.
Many friends around me will say to me: I really envy your life. You can arrange your time freely, write what you like, do what you like, and support yourself with your hobbies.
At that moment, I could only laugh it off. Every industry is not easy, just as every game has rules, so does the industry.
Everyone has moments of anxiety, confusion and even fear.
Maybe two years ago, 1 years ago, I was also worried about all kinds of reluctant encounters. I still remember the moment when I was scolded at the airport when I went to Shanghai for the annual meeting. Faced with the double pressure of customers and leaders, I have the urge to resign 100 times a day, go on a business trip once a week, have no free time after work, turn on my phone anytime, anywhere, etc., and reply to customer information in time.
A graduate friend who graduated less than a year said: He wants to resign. Because looking at his colleagues who have worked in the company for five years, he seems to be able to describe himself five years later or even 10 years later, and he can only suffer indignities in a cubicle. If he is lucky, he will be promoted to department head.
I found that many friends around me are setting limits for themselves. They are anxious and confused, but it is difficult to break through and achieve real self-growth. So a few years after graduation, the gap with peers is getting bigger and bigger.
As the most humble ordinary girl in the vast sea of people, I, like others, have been denying myself for a long time.
I joined a writing group some time ago, and there was a question on it: What impressed me this year? I wrote on it: Resignation, career change, publishing a book.
That was my brave first step on 16, but I must have made a lot of careful preparations before I resigned.
Only by constantly updating yourself can you be worthy of what you desire.
Decisions that you can't make when you are young may not have courage in this life. So it is extremely important to take the first step bravely!
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The gap will widen after graduation. If you observe the people around you, you will find that some people have been going up, while others are still standing still. Many people will be comforted by the following classic poem, and so will I.
But comfort is to let you deal with the present more calmly, and don't let yourself become so distorted.
"If you really cherish something in your life, try not to lose it!"
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In your twenties, the sooner you wake up, the better.
First, we must make a career plan and carry it out.
I saw such a passage the other day, which really went deep into my heart. This is the reality.
The factors that determine Excellence and mediocrity are definitely not the diligence, hard work and academic qualifications that we have been instilled since childhood. It is not that they are not important, but that they do not play a decisive role.
It's cruel, but this is the reality.
Among the factors beyond your control, family background, vision, courage and luck.
Among the acquired factors you can control, career planning ability, learning ability, adaptability and execution ability!
These have played a decisive role.
Second: twenties, really no ten years!
A point of view on the Internet coincides with mine:
For most of us, twenty years old seems to be only three years.
In the first year, the university did nothing and slept and skipped classes;
The next year, I woke up at a loss and rented a house to catch the subway.
In the third year, I did a job I didn't like, stayed in a city I didn't like, and found it was time to get married at the urging of my seven aunts and eight aunts, and then I was going to be 30 years old.
Twenty years old, not many years. Because no one in youth understands youth, every step is to explore progress.
Every year, among the geese flying south, there is always a community in the middle. Finally, winter came, and instead of flying to the south, they could only freeze to death on the road. These geese are not good enough, but the temptation in the middle is too great, and only temporary comfort and ease are considered.
Just like us, we were admitted to the same university. Four years later, everyone is different. Some of us fail every year and don't even get a degree certificate. Some of us have started their own small companies to lead the team, and some of us have been admitted to Peking University. Starting from the same starting point, everyone is great. It's not that anyone is not good enough, but that there are too many temptations in the middle: mobile games, skipping classes, staying in bed for TV dramas ... It is these indulgence and laziness that "achieve" myself now.
Third: there is no road in life, and every step counts.
This is a classic once written by Jonathan Lee in "The most ingenious thinking".
We can really see where our time is spent. You used to be lazy, and one day society will pay you back twice as much. What scares you most is not that time has slipped away, and you are getting old, but as others say: age has risen, but wisdom, vision and bank card deposits have not risen with it.
Twenty years old is a youth worth fighting for, just as Wang Xiaobo wrote in the Golden Age: I was twenty-one years old that day, in the golden age of my life.
Twenty years old, it should be hot, blazing and sunny.