The bottom line you must never touch in a team. A failed team has no winners, but a successful team can achieve everyone. Perhaps this is the charm of the team. So if you are currently in a team, what are the bottom lines that you must never touch?
The bottom line you must never touch in a team 1 taboo 1: Don't build a "small circle" of the team.
The "small circle" of a team is a small group in which team leaders put some team members into the circle and others into the circle according to the standards of "going through the window, going to the countryside, crossing the kang, crossing the neighborhood and carrying a gun", so it is considered as "buddy relationship" by team members outside the circle. If there is a small circle in the team, it will inevitably form a "small circle culture." The inner circle relies on "buddy relationship", while the outer circle relies on systems and rules, which will inevitably lead to conflicts, contradictions and injustice over time. The "buddy relationship" will inevitably struggle with the system, leading to the division of the team and the formation of factions, which will lead to different opinions. Regardless of him, the goal deviation, passion decline, and efficiency decrease.
Taboo 2: Don't stop talking and chatter.
Maybe everyone has encountered such an annoyance. During the meeting, you expressed your views in an orderly way. Suddenly someone interjected, and then gushed, completely ignoring your helplessness, as if you had swallowed a fly alive. You must have met in the group discussion, when it was clearly agreed that everyone had an opinion. As a result, someone stood up and talked endlessly about the points that everyone could think of, and was still complacent. As a result, other members of this group hate it. "Don't grab words" has become a conventional implicit principle. Many successful people in the workplace will take "don't grab words" as a reminder and advice to newcomers in the workplace on different occasions.
Taboo 3: Don't be outspoken and speak without thinking.
In the workplace, speaking without thinking will not only hurt other people's feelings, but also damage their professional image. I once read the following passage in a friend's reading notes: There is a lesson that I will never forget. That was when I first came to the company, and I was still in the previous department. I once chatted with a leader and talked about a cultural celebrity. I took it for granted that this man was of the same age as Mr. Lu Xun in the late Qing Dynasty and the early Republic of China, so I blurted out, "Isn't he dead?" As it happens, our leader and this celebrity are friends. She was surprised and asked me, "When did you die?" And had the audacity to say "long dead" or something. The leader didn't say anything at that time, but I must have left a very bad impression on this person who doesn't pretend to know nonsense. Later, the staff of the department was adjusted and I was recommended to another department. Although it is good for my career development, so many colleagues in the department only recommend me. I think this has a lot to do with the bad impression of my leaders. From now on, I will force myself to think before I speak. Should I say this sentence? If you have to say it, what should you say to achieve the best effect? Sure enough, I have never made such a mistake again. My friend's lesson should be enough for those who like to speak freely to take warning.
Taboo 4: If you can't, don't say you can.
Keeping promise is the magic weapon of Laoganma. A seller in Guangzhou set the annual sales target of Laoganma Chili sauce at 30 million yuan. Tao Huabi thought this goal was too high and difficult to achieve, so he said half jokingly, "If you really achieve this goal, I will reward you with a car at the end of the year!"
The seller did not take it seriously. He knows that Tao Huabi is very frugal-she is a big boss, but she doesn't even deserve to own a car. She usually goes out to do business and squeeze the bus. Even if she goes to the tax office to pay taxes, she puts two steamed buns in her pocket as Chinese food and runs back and forth in an agricultural vehicle. How could she be willing to award an outsider's car?
By the end of the year, the seller really completed the sales of 30 million. Tao Huabi issued a statement: "People should keep their promises. What they say is like overflowing water. If they are irresponsible, how can they win the trust of others? " She pushed through the crowd and gave the seller a car.
After the news spread, sellers lamented: Laoganma is the most honest. Who would have the heart to lie to someone like her?
Honesty makes Tao Huabi win a good reputation and taste the sweetness, which makes her regard honesty management as a magic weapon for enterprise development. She said, "I don't know any fashionable management methods. I rely on honesty. I want to be so sincere that others can't bear to lie to me. " If anyone lies to me, others will say: You have the heart to lie to her. Whoever is notorious among his peers will find it difficult to gain a foothold. "
To be a person who can be trusted by others, to be a person worthy of others' trust, and to be a person who is consistent inside and outside, this is honesty, that is, to be more responsible, more frank and more responsible; For enterprises, the products or services provided by enterprises should be honest, meet the needs of users, and do not make any false publicity reports, so that every user feels that enterprises are trustworthy and assured.
Taboo 5: Don't always show off in front of team members.
Only with the help of the team can a person make a difference, so we have made achievements, partly due to the team members. We have honor, and we should also give some honor to our players. In other words, when we have achieved something, we should learn to thank others more. If we have honor, we must learn to recognize others more; If we have a certain strength, we must learn to have empathy and see how to help others with our own strength.
Taboo 6: Don't always show kindness to team members.
Similar to Taboo Five, the people involved in Taboo Six are more irritating. I said in my previous article that I should be good at helping others, and at the same time I am not afraid to accept others' help. However, it is disgusting that the so-called "benefactor" always shows what he calls "kindness". When a kind of help turns to show off, help and kindness change their taste.
Taboo 7: Don't forget, but always remember and mention the help of others.
Taboo 6 says that we don't like people saying that they help us every day, but we should always remember to be grateful to those who have helped us. It is very important to always remember and mention the help of others. When you always remember to mention others' help, others will continue to help you.
Always remember to thank others for their help. Others will be praised by more people around you, but they will also appreciate you.
Taboo 8: Don't reveal the privacy or secrets of team members.
Maintain a harmonious atmosphere among team members, and know how to keep privacy or secrets for team members. A person always has something purely personal, which is often not suitable for communication. It can only be "you know me" between himself and his best friend. These secrets include sad things, happy secrets, life defects, personal grievances and so on.
People communicate with each other in order to exchange feelings, seek help and enhance friendship. An important purpose of making friends is to find someone to talk to and be understood. However, the person who broke his promise failed to live up to this trust. They promised to "keep a secret" in person, and then turned around and told other irrelevant people what happened. How can people associate with such people?
Taboo 9: Don't talk about team members behind their backs.
However, "there is no windtight wall in the world." As a member of a team, if you casually talk about other team members behind their backs, the content of the discussion will reach the ears of the parties sooner or later, which will affect the harmony and unity of the team. If you have any complaints about your colleagues, you might as well find a suitable time and bring them up in person. Otherwise, talking about others behind their backs will inevitably affect their own image.
Taboo 10: Don't command team members at will and hurt others' self-esteem.
The tenth taboo in team building is not to arbitrarily order team members to hurt others' self-esteem. Learn to ask, not command; Learn to beg, not ask; Learn to help, not to cooperate. ...
The bottom line 2 (1) that you must never touch in a team: emotion.
Anyone, when you stand in front of him, you can definitely feel his mood and state. From his voice and the content of his speech, you can judge his purpose and the focus of his attention. Is it complaining, negativity or grievance, or inner joy, peace and sincerity?
As a team leader, your emotions and inner feelings can be felt by the team. Even if you are afraid again, you must not bring this fear to your subordinates when you appear, because they are even more insecure. You don't need to shine or be passionate, you just need to find more advantages to praise them and make them do better. Affirm their value and help them find pleasure in their daily boring work.
If a leader is too emotional to motivate the team, and your emotions can't be controlled, then many people in the team may be scared and not in the mood to do things all day from morning. Because you are the leader of the team, everyone will go wherever you lead. Therefore, emotionalization is the first taboo of a team leader. You have no right to represent yourself in public, you represent the whole company, and this is the overall situation! You represent the future and hope of the whole company in front of the public, no exaggeration!
(b): lose hope
People live for hope, and life without hope is darkness. At any time, the team leader can't back down, even if it is difficult, it can't be shown in front of the employees, let alone said. Many entrepreneurs, even if they jump off a building, will not bring this despair and anxiety to their subordinates. This is a promise. Many things that others can't bear can only be borne by themselves; Leaders are lonely and can only understand and warm themselves.
You need to take responsibility and hold your head high in the face of difficulties. Even if a bullet comes head-on, you should hold your chest so high! When you insist, others will fight to the death, just for honor and stubbornness of human nature, just to prove yourself!
When everyone loses hope, only the leader will bear it. You can stand up again and lead everyone forward. This is the hero and leader in people's hearts. Never complain and lose hope and enthusiasm in your heart. Bring more people hope, courage and strength!
(c): playing tricks
There is a lovely saying: the city has a deep routine and wants to go back to the countryside. After 90, most of them have extremely high IQ. It is difficult to educate these children regularly now. People are always mutual. How you treat others, others will naturally feel it. If you play tricks and play tricks, others will naturally return.
In management, there are management skills, which is not a secret, but based on equal communication between the two sides, and then comprehensive opinions, and finally reach an understanding, which is to prepare for future in-depth cooperation.
Once one day, the team needs means to control, so it is not far from the disintegration of the team. Tao Te Ching said: "It's too high, I don't know; Secondly, it was praised by relatives; Second, fear it; Secondly, it is insulting and untrustworthy. " The meaning of this sentence is: the most discerning leader, everyone does not know his existence, everyone performs their duties and cooperates tacitly; Secondly, the leaders praised him and cared for him; Being a leader again, people are afraid of him; The last leader, people abused him. Because of the lack of credibility, it is impossible to lead the people. Therefore, those who win the hearts of the people will win the world, and those who lose the hearts of the people will lose the world!
(d): Tolerance, no bottom line.
In the team, the company's interests are above everything else, and the system is above everything else. If something goes wrong, the first thing that comes to mind should be the system. System is the company's bottom line, and no one can cross it! Once someone violates it and no one stops it or is punished accordingly, then more people will follow suit. This is the famous broken window theory. If a window breaks a piece of glass, then this window will break more!
A team can do without a basic management framework, but it can't do without a system, which is the bottom line of a team and the basic culture of the company. As the saying goes: a good system makes bad people better, a bad system makes good people worse, and everyone is equal before the system. Only in this way can we achieve basic fairness and justice.
Once the team's system is not perfect, it is like a yard without fences, where it may be broken. Where something goes wrong and you need to remedy it, you become the fire chief. When the system is perfect, the whole team will be in good order. Everyone will act according to the regulations, do their job well, and naturally get on the right track. Therefore, the system is the real boss.
unfair
As the old saying goes: no widowhood, no inequality. This shows the importance of fairness. At least in the initial starting point, we can't let everyone feel unfair. Even if I did, I couldn't express it. Because everyone is eager for fairness, we can't favour one over the other. When the system is solidified, it can ensure relative fairness, but the executor of the system is a person, and the person who handles things is also a person. This person is the leader of the team. In an extremely important part, your every move, every word and deed will be noticed, because everyone is following the trend.
In a team, what kind of things, especially some obscure, difficult and sensitive things, should be handled openly, so as to be fair and just, convince the public and let everyone know the team's values, what to advocate and what to suppress! The attitude is very clear, which is also the basis of cohesive team.
Whether a team's cohesion and people's hearts are together depends on whether the leader is fair. Once there is deviation, then the team is a mess, everyone will plan for their own interests, and naturally there will be no unity. The root of all this lies in the unfair handling of things by team leaders.
(6): conceited, don't listen to any advice.
We can often see leaders of many countries on the screen, very confident, firm and calm, standing on the stage to speak, they represent a country, behind them are the people of the whole country, and they are very cautious in doing things. Although they only stayed on the stage for a few minutes, the decision behind them was very cautious, which is the consensus reached by the national think tanks.
Similarly, the leader of a team, you represent the whole team, and all comments and attitudes are responsible for the team. You can't do what you like, let alone make Ren Xia angry. Be confident, accept suggestions from all sides and seek improvement.
Speech gives people hope, happiness, inspiration and direction. Only in this way can we unite more people to go further together. We can't just complain and repeat, but change and innovate.
(7): Rigid thinking
Excellent team leaders are always on the front line, deeply understand the law of market development, find the development trend, take timely measures to deal with market changes.
In the face of the ever-changing market, the most feared thing is the rigidity of thinking, so we should take timely countermeasures, not blindly imitate and copy, study the laws, find differences, give play to our own advantages and constantly seek improvement. Give full play to the advantages of your own model and team.
The seven taboos do not require perfect team leaders, but hope to avoid detours and unnecessary internal friction in contact with team members and daily work.
The world is not static, only the same interests are eternal, and only if you can create permanent interests can more people go further with you. * * * Together!