Don't feel sorry for those misfortunes that have happened to us. If you find it difficult to do this, please read the following passage:
"I was sad because I didn't have shoes, and suddenly I met a person without feet, and my sadness suddenly vanished."
Harold, the manager of the Dale Carnegie lecture tour, said this. Is it reasonable?
We can calculate our present income.
Let's start with the grace given by nature. Sunshine, rain and dew, air, these are the most precious things we can enjoy without spending a penny.
Think of the kindness given by people around us. Family, love, friendship and even strangers will give us smiles and help.
Finally, let's consider ourselves. We have a healthy body, our eyes can see all the beautiful things, and our hearts can feel all the beautiful things. We can taste all kinds of delicious food and listen to beautiful music.
Although, there are all kinds of misfortunes in life that happen to us and make us lose something. But when we carefully calculate what we have, we will find that we have lost only a small part, and we still have most happiness.
When we begin to pay attention to the happiness we have, we will no longer pay attention to misfortune.
So, let's remember the benefits we get and be a contented person.
In this life, few people have lived 100 years old. How can we get infinite happiness in a limited life?
As a woman, I think the most important thing is not to be vain and materialistic.
When I was a child, my family was poor and I had many sisters. Usually the elder sister gives it to the second sister and then to the third sister. When you put it on, you can hardly see the pattern and color, and it is very clean. I have never felt any injustice. The children in the neighborhood are dressed like princesses. Her parents even lend money to buy clothes for their children during the Spring Festival, but I never think my mother is stingy. Motherly love is not an object. Is it comparable to a dress?
If a person sees someone else running a factory, he needs a loan to run it. When he sees someone else buying a BMW, he will immediately replace his Toyota. Even when he sees someone else having a mistress, he will have an affair immediately. Then he will sink deeper and deeper in the greedy swamp.
Money is a thing apart. No one can take a penny with him when he leaves this world. There is no need to continue to struggle with greed and comparison. Happiness is not comparing with others. Happiness is your own feeling. Be content, be grateful for everything you have, keep your heart and love those who love you, and happiness will last forever!
A person's life is very short, and he can reach the realm of being content with Changle. Few people can reach this level. Most people don't compete for food. As long as they see other people's food and clothing and make money quickly, what can that person do if he has the opportunity? As long as your eyes see it, you will fight for it and take it away. In other words, no matter how high the Jinshan Yinshan is piled up, I always see that others are much more than myself, and others are happier than themselves. Therefore, people's lives have boundaries, while people's thoughts are endless.
Because, generally speaking, a person with a brain will have aspirations, ideals and pursuits. For these people, life will never end, they will never be satisfied with their present situation, and they will struggle in the stormy waves of society. As far as my own point of view and reality are concerned, when I first entered the society, I wanted to earn more work points and save more money so that I could build a house for myself and start a family. As a result, I built two luxury houses where I could hide, get married and have children by my own efforts, which should be satisfied with the current living conditions at that time. However, when I see others contracting projects in Xi 'an, I will also contract projects and watch others do business. As long as I see that others can make big money, I will also make big money. I should be a little tired around, so it is enough not to do housework, do a little business and live a happy family life. But because my heart is higher than the sky and my life is thinner than paper, I am bent on creating great things, so I can't consider my fate. What I thought was realized by others, but I was forced to fail because of unexpected blows in all aspects. In the end, I was tortured in the encounter, lost confidence in life, lost patience with my own destiny, and looked down on all the fame and fortune. As a result, the mentality has changed, and the mood has gradually changed. I live with the idea of muddling along. I really realized the correct meaning of being content with Changle and gradually lived a life of being content with Changle.
Therefore, if people live in the world without distractions, treat fame and fortune like dirt, and have no excessive pursuit of life, people will be content. However, if people have high ideological pursuit of life, lofty ideals and lofty goals, it is impossible to live a happy life.
Enjoy the present, the past cannot be chased, and the future cannot be expected. Let go of the unpleasantness of the past and lose the confusion and worry about the future. Every moment is real. Why spend precious time and energy on things that cannot be changed and have not happened yet?
Life is only a few decades. Teenagers are worried about adding new words, middle-aged stars are really worried, and people are depressed and speechless when they are old. People are inferior to things, and they are gone without saying a word. Living in the present will defeat those who die early. If they are alive, they should not be discouraged and should not waste their good time.
Auricularia auricula and summer insects live so short, but they are really lively and prosperous. Are people not as good as them?
Many people are unhappy, which is a comparative conclusion.
No one is outstanding in me, no one is outstanding in my children, no one is happy in my family and no one is beautiful in my work. This and that are not satisfactory.
Happiness is not comparison, but misfortune is comparison.
This gloomy contrast can only make you more discouraged and unhappy.
If you are a farmer and look at the crops in four seasons, you will be very happy.
If you are a worker, you can successfully complete your daily work, and your salary is not high, but you can also support your family. This is happiness.
If you are a student, your study is not top-notch. You can gain knowledge in your study and be happy because you master new knowledge.
Family members are old, healthy when they are old, stubborn when they are young, and amiable when they love each other. This is happiness.
This summer, Xi is warm for a few days, cool for a few days, rainy and sunny, much cooler than last summer, which is happiness.
Man, you are content. If you feel uncomfortable, Li Bai said that as an ordinary person, you often think about one or two things and can't sleep for seven or eight nights.
Snails can carry their houses around the world. As long as we have a contented heart, we can go further and see more things than snails.
Being born a man is already happy.
Life is short. Even if you live a long life, it's less than 40 thousand days. However, human desire is endless. They want a villa with a suite and a plane with a car. Never satisfied, never satisfied.
In fact, happiness and trouble are just a state of mind. Meditation and contentment, that is, free from the pain and trouble you want.
For life, three meals a night. You can't eat five flavors, sleep less than eight feet, worry about hunger and cold, avoid wind and rain, have convenient access, have a healthy family, and enjoy family life.
I don't know what the good news is, and my troubles are constant. The prescription is abstinence. Nothing in the world is difficult for one who sets his mind to it. I remember a famous saying: choose a high place to stand and look down? It can be described as a firm motto. Aim high, but enjoy it in moderation. Living standards and low ratio, natural peace of mind and contentment, Changle why not?
What can I do to satisfy it?
There is an idiom called "it's hard to fill one's wants", which means that people's desires have no bottom line and are hard to satisfy. How big is human desire? How far people's thoughts are, how big their desires are!
Think for yourself if you don't believe me. From the beginning, I wish I had a toy until all the toys were mine. When I grow up, I hope I have a house until I have a villa, and so on.
What beggars want most is to be full at every meal. Once he has had enough for every meal, he will want to have clothes to keep me warm in winter. When he is full and warm, he will think that it will be very comfortable to have a house that can shelter from the wind and rain. When he has a house, he will want to walk too tired, and it will be beautiful to have a car ... Even if he becomes emperor, he will still think it would be great if I live forever and have money forever, so Qin Shihuang sent Xu Fu to find it.
Some people will say that it is easy to be satisfied with everything by looking down. I think this idea is unreliable and fragile. This idea is mostly due to the constraints of law, morality, helplessness, wealth and other factors. If you still don't believe me, try to think about it. What would you do if you found a piece of ownerless gold in a deserted place one day?
Does this mean that no one will be satisfied? Of course there is. It is the realm of people who, after long-term training or practice, have a correct understanding of all the laws in the world and know the truth or approximate truth of everything around them.
Desire is the root of pain, and desire is the root of trouble. Getting is happiness, losing is pain; Being intact is happiness, and being damaged is pain. Because we have never seen an animal that can only live and die; Never seen a treasure that had to be lost; I've never seen a child who just laughs and doesn't cry!
Therefore, contentment, no desire and no ego are the steps to get rid of troubles and life and death, and eternal life and eternal happiness are the realm of the liberator. Short-term contentment cannot solve long-term problems!
Finally, listen to a reassuring word:
No matter who you met in your previous life, you should have met the most. No matter who makes you happy or miserable, you will learn something from it!
Heard such a story:
Once upon a time, there was a big landlord who owned countless land and wealth, but he was still not satisfied. He prayed to God for more land every day. Finally, one day, God came to him and said to him, "Since you want that land so badly, I will give it to you at once, but on one condition: as long as you try your best to run forward, as long as you can come back to me before dark, all the land you have stepped on is yours.
The landlord was overjoyed and ran away. Jane is like a crazy beast. He did his best and kept walking, always hoping to run more distances to get more land. Seeing that the sun was about to set, I reluctantly turned and ran back, and finally came to my senses before dark. Unfortunately, before he could speak, he fell to the ground and died of extreme fatigue. From then on, all the land has nothing to do with him.
This story tells us that life is short. In the world of mortals, having a fresh life is a person's greatest luck. Compared with it, money, status, wealth and so on are not worth mentioning. In this process, especially in this materialistic and tempting society, it is the greatest happiness and success not to blindly hope and excessively pursue things that don't belong to you, to do what you like, and to live a life that fits the reality!
Remember: the reason why we are unhappy is not because we get too little, but because we want too much!
Thanks for asking.
We often say that contentment is enough, but how many can we really do it? Everyone has worldly desires. Among them, seven emotions refer to people: joy, anger, worry, fear, love, hate and desire; Six desires refer to people's eyes, ears, nose, tongue, body and mind. When we are satisfied, we will be happy. When we are not satisfied, we will be sad. If you want to be truly satisfied, you must cultivate your self-cultivation and control yourself.
When people lack love, we often do this. We can't stand the temptation of the outside world and push ourselves to the wall step by step. There is no turning back. When we realize that it is too late, we will tell everything, but how many people can really do it? Busy streets and colorful life always make people intoxicated and unable to extricate themselves, and they will never understand that contentment is enough. In fact, people should know how to be satisfied and know enough is enough.
A person's life is short, how can he be satisfied? I think complicated things should be done in a single bucket, and the ideal goal should not be set too high. Looking at the long years, the green hills are not old, and doing things half-heartedly is like a trickle and soft as a breeze. Don't fight for height on the mountain, and don't hurt people. Do not dispute the gorgeous flowers, calmly look at the clouds and clouds. It doesn't matter whether you have more money or less, and there are warm ceremonies every day. Always have a good mood, face every day calmly in prosperity and adversity, go on the road with a good mood every day, and walk the long road of life happily and healthily.