Recently, I caught up with the discount season of e-commerce. Recently, I wrote more frequently and my wallet was bulging. I bought several beautiful clothes in one breath and rewarded myself.
After wearing a new skirt for a few days at work, colleagues around me will also politely hold a show, blow a few rainbow farts and say that the clothes fit. But there are also some harsh words.
"Oh, this dress looks different every day. Is there an extra bonus? Why don't you invite me? "
Needless to say, that colleague is being sarcastic again.
She is the "poison tongue" of our company, and her words are very sharp. She is especially sarcastic in her spare time.
Last year, when I evaluated my professional title and got a raise, I ordered an afternoon tea for my colleagues in the department to express my feelings. When that colleague saw her coming, I naturally greeted her warmly for dinner.
Unexpectedly, she glanced at it and some scoffed: "Isn't it too shabby to ask for so much money?" Embarrassed, I explained, "I can't take care of so many people. It is not appropriate to say hello, everyone will give it a try. "
She picked up a cup of milk tea and took a sip, but she still didn't let me go: "The salary is higher than others, but it is not necessarily more generous than others. Little girl, you can't do this. " Say and roared off, leaving me embarrassed to stand in situ.
At first, I was angry because this colleague hid a needle from time to time. Later I learned that this is her style.
Everyone in the company calls her "lemon essence" behind her back, because no matter what others do, she will criticize others sourly. In short, diss hurts you and enhances her sense of superiority.
Over time, everyone stayed away from her and ignored her.
Speaking of lemon essence, it is really everywhere, and I immediately thought of a former college roommate, Yan.
It's really annoying that this Yan doesn't talk.
A roommate has a boyfriend. She is extroverted, so she will show her love in her circle of friends from time to time.
A Yan began to feel sad and said strangely, "It's amazing to talk about a love, for fear that others won't know. I haven't heard that Xiuen's love died quickly, so I will slap myself carefully after breaking up. "
Being cursed to break up when you first fell in love made your roommate very angry. She loves to share, loves to bask in her circle of friends, and does not interfere with anything of Ayan. This poisonous tongue is really a bit harsh.
Another roommate applied for a top 500 company in the job-hunting season, and he was defeated all the way.
My roommate was very sad, and we felt very sad, but we comforted her that she was very good and had seen big scenes, and it would be smoother to find a job in the future.
Fearing that the world would not be chaotic, A Yan interjected, "It's been so long, and it's not the night before liberation. What's the use of fighting like this? "
At the moment, everyone wants to throw 10 thousand dirty eyes at A Yan.
On weekdays, I am frugal, often shop around and choose goods with high cost performance. A Yan didn't like it and began to sour me: "Oh, it's not that I have no money. I didn't get a scholarship last semester. Why are you so stingy? I don't have any quality of life. "
I am a thin-skinned person, and I blush when I hear this, as if I had been scarred by someone.
But once she bought it back, Yan began to be confused again. She wants to grab a handful of snacks I bought; She can use the paper towels I bought and smoke them directly from me. She also wants to squeeze the facial cleanser I bought.
I wonder, you don't despise my things, why do you always rub me?
In fact, she habitually belittles others, occupies the moral high ground, and then takes advantage of others with a clear conscience.
If you just can't help being sour on others, forget it. Adults don't care about villains, you have to forgive others.
However, if a girl like A Yan tells the truth when she gets cheap, she will not only sour others, but also take advantage of others, so she really has to doubt her personality.
Therefore, after graduating from college, our impression of Ayan is only disgusting, and there is no connection.
The lemon essence around us is so annoying. What can we do to treat these lemon essences?
First, stay away from lemon extract if you can't afford to hide.
Lemon essence always spits sour water off guard, you never know when it will get hurt. They are always looking for a target, and as long as they are targeted by him, they can spray you black and blue.
You can't reason with such a person. He always has all kinds of fallacies that make you speechless. For such people, we can't afford to be taunted but we can afford to hide. Just keep your distance from him.
What they like best is to find someone to fight. If you contradict him, he will be full of motivation and concentrate on firing at you at once.
Stay away from lemon extract, you can save a lot of trouble. Don't be polite to such people, try to avoid dealing with them.
Don't compete with him, let him punch on cotton. When he is turned away, he will naturally stop arguing with you and look for the next goal.
Second, making life better is the biggest counterattack against lemon essence.
Lemon essence is sour because you can't see others better than yourself, so you should squeeze it with words to show your superiority. If you continue to argue with him, that's exactly what he wants.
As the saying goes, facts speak louder than words. No matter how much you argue with him, you won't be as happy as yourself. You should think about how precious your time is. Instead of wasting it on such people, it is better to do something meaningful to yourself.
He blames you for buying extravagant clothes, so you try to earn more money to dress yourself up and make him more sour; He blames your salary for being higher than his, because the boss has a new stove, and you work harder to improve yourself and get more bonuses, which makes him even more sour.
Doesn't he like to sour others? Let him be sour enough for once.
Third, to put it another way, being sour is because of jealousy, which is equal to praise in disguise.
Sometimes, looking at the same thing from another angle will be another kind of mood.
Just like the person who is slightly sour in lemon, it is ironic on the surface, but in fact, his psychology is inferiority. Because he feels inferior to you, he can't change this fact, so he can only hurt you with words, and his psychology will be relatively balanced.
When lemon is sour to you, you think he is actually praising you in disguise because of jealousy. Do you feel much better, and there is still a little secretly pleased?
The better he is, the better you are, and the more he envies you and hates you. This feeling should not be too cool.