1, stop drinking. Generally bring female subordinates, mostly for abstinence. Because in such social occasions, drinking is essential, and it is not drunk. Most bosses have seen this deadly drinking occasion, and it is easy to get drunk if you don't drink enough.
I have participated in such occasions many times. The boss got drunk many times and finally called the female subordinate of the unit. In fact, before I called, I agreed with my beautiful colleague that you should come out to stop drinking, otherwise you really can't go back. Sure enough, on the wine table, when the boss was advised to drink too much, beautiful colleagues stood up and blocked a few waves. The men tried to get the beautiful woman drunk, and in the end they all got drunk.
In fact, women really need to let go of drinking. Drinking is much more powerful than men.
2, showing that there are many beautiful women in the unit. Another possibility is that the boss brings beautiful subordinates into his vanity. On the one hand, it shows that there are many beautiful women in the unit, on the other hand, it also shows that you have absolute control over beautiful subordinates and can highlight your sense of accomplishment.
At the same time, on the wine table, men will inevitably talk about beautiful women. If they bring a unique beauty on the wine table, not only will their vanity be satisfied, but other bosses and leaders will also make fun of them, say some dirty jokes, and even associate themselves with beautiful women's subordinates, and they will feel flattered.
3. Build personal relationships. To put it bluntly, it is more convenient for beautiful women to establish personal relationships. On the wine table, mostly old men. They call in beautiful women, use them as a link, establish personal relationships with big bosses, and may even set up a honey trap to let other bosses who can use it automatically, so as to facilitate the development and utilization of resources in the future.
4. Cultivate beautiful women. If you think this beautiful woman is capable, smart and loyal to yourself, then you will try your best to develop her, push her to an important position, work for the convenience in the future, cultivate her contacts, get to know your boss, and facilitate her to get through with them in the future. You will naturally bring her and introduce her on the wine table, with the aim of vigorously cultivating loyal female subordinates.
5. Strengthen public relations. This is also important, probably for public relations. On some wine tables, it is very likely that they are bosses who master the future public opinion or management destiny of their own units, and most of the beautiful women in their own units are responsible for public relations, so they can be invited to meet these important responsible persons who decide the future destiny of their own units.
For example, if the unit has negative news and is caught in the cusp of public opinion, it is essential to deal with relevant media. If you know the leaders of these media units on the wine table, you can bend the rules and reduce or cancel the bad reports on the units.
6. Active atmosphere. There is another situation, the wine table is full of old men, talking about topics other than career, that is, women and so on. The topic may be single and boring, and it will be meaningless after a long time. If you invite an open and uninhibited beauty, you can not only enliven the atmosphere on the wine table, but also make fun of the beauty and say some dirty jokes, so that eating on the wine table will not be so silent and monotonous.
What's more, nine of the ten beautiful women are materialistic and money-worshipping. They are happy to participate in such entertainment and are willing to be teased by rich people.
Haha, everyone who has been socializing knows that if there are no girls at dinner, especially beautiful unmarried girls, it is difficult to get high. If unmarried girls attend, the dinner will be full of fun and climax, and the girls who are constantly provoked by various artistic languages will be warm in their hearts. This is the hobby of greasy middle-aged men!
There are usually five reasons for male bosses to socialize with female subordinates:
1, cooking
Female subordinates are the food that people who attend dinner. During the dinner, everyone teased and joked in various languages, and the atmosphere was very high. With the atmosphere, everything is easy.
Step 2 make vases
If the female subordinates are beautiful, they can take them out to watch, and when they socialize, they will be accompanied by a beautiful subordinate, which will make the boss look good. Otherwise, two men are under too much pressure to talk.
3. shield
When socializing, if they are all men, they usually go to some indecent places after drinking, but it is easy to bring a female subordinate, and the other party will be more formal.
Step 4 have a job
Step 5 accompany guests
Needless to say, this is to accompany wine, food and so on. Generally speaking, it is to coax guests and cheer them up. What kind of list and contract are not a problem.
Step 6 be selfish
The boss doesn't bring other subordinates, male subordinates don't, and female subordinates do. This is to focus on training. This is the first selfishness. Of course, it does not rule out that the boss wants to be alone with his female subordinates. This is the second selfishness.
In short, male bosses take female subordinates to socialize. If the female subordinates are beautiful and unmarried, they are basically the first and sixth. Occasionally it may be the fifth, and the fourth is the least likely!
Male bosses like to take female subordinates to socialize. Generally, they will bring young, beautiful, cheerful and sociable female subordinates. Seeing this, you will understand what his psychology is.
First of all, the male boss satisfies his psychological needs, because the young, beautiful and even sexy woman is around, and the male boss will be elated and have a desire for love. In enterprises, because they are all from their own units, in order to maintain their dignity, male bosses will pretend to be serious in front of female subordinates and take them to socialize. First, it is more eye-catching. Second, it's fun to say something relaxed or even provocative. Third, if the male boss is a very sexy person, he can take advantage of the female subordinates.
The second and most important point, because most men are lewd, bringing beautiful, sexy and open-minded female subordinates to talk often attracts customers and makes business easy. On the wine table, it is also to enhance the so-called feelings for female subordinates to persuade customers to drink more wine.
Thirdly, it is a vanity for a male boss to take a female subordinate to socialize, with a little nouveau riche mentality, and he feels that he has face and high status with young and beautiful women around him. In fact, this is the performance of a vulgar person. A truly aristocratic man doesn't need to bring a female subordinate to block the facade.
Entertainment can be said to be indispensable in the workplace. In film and television works, there are often scenes where women hold wine glasses for entertainment, which is by no means imaginary. Because in reality, it is very common for male bosses to like to take female subordinates to socialize. As for what psychology this is, some scholars think it is the following:
0 1 face
Everyone loves face and has vanity. Those successful, rich and powerful male bosses care more about face. From a psychological point of view, male bosses like to take female subordinates to socialize, precisely because of the face problem.
There is a female friend who is handsome and beautiful. The key is that she speaks very sweetly and is born with a clever mouth.
I often hear her talk about it. Every time the company has an entertainment, the boss will call her. Later, a beautiful young girl and a girl with strong business ability came to the unit.
After that, the two new girls "joined" the boss's team to socialize. Every time the boss introduces them, his face is full of pride. The subtext is "Look at me, I am surrounded by beautiful women who can do things".
In fact, a good-looking woman can really be pleasing to the eye. Beautiful women stand next to men and have a different sense of existence. Careful observation shows that not all female subordinates can be taken out of the entertainment circle. Generally, there are only two kinds, one is beautiful and the other is beautiful. Therefore, the "standard" of male bosses with people just illustrates this kind of psychology.
You Shujun has worked for ten years, but she has never gone out to socialize with her boss. Please comfort! !
02 unemployment
Entertainment belongs to entertainment, but work still needs to be discussed. There is no denying that many bosses still like to talk about business while eating.
Since it is a work-oriented social interaction, of course, it is not just to "show off" beautiful women, but more to focus on work.
Some surveys show that women are more acceptable and have a higher success rate when talking about business. First of all, women are softer than men, so it is easier to enliven the atmosphere. Women are more likely to talk about emergencies or embarrassing situations when eating. For example, if the other person is male or female, it is more appropriate to bring a female subordinate. If the other person is male, it is generally not difficult for women; If the other person is a woman, women are more likely to talk to women. Secondly, women generally don't drink much and are not easily forced to drink, so the probability of getting drunk is low, which is more helpful for business negotiations.
On the contrary, if you bring a male subordinate, the situation is the opposite. If you meet another poor drinker, the scene will be difficult to control.
Therefore, from the point of view of work, it is more appropriate to take female subordinates to socialize than to take male subordinates, which is also more conducive to work.
Out of selfishness
There is no denying that some male bosses take female subordinates to socialize for personal reasons.
For example, in order to flatter each other, please each other, and get along with female subordinates more ... because of selfishness, it is not easy to make excuses at ordinary times. In the name of entertainment, it is called "promotion" and "promotion", but it is selfish.
Shujun knows a female friend who is engaged in fine arts. She complained that every time she went to dinner, her boss invited her. Although she made it clear that she didn't want to attend, the boss insisted on her going.
And every time at the dinner table, let her propose a toast to others, saying that she likes your paintings and flatters. There are a lot of such news on the Internet.
04 personal preference
There is nothing to say about personal preference. Just like men like beautiful women and women like handsome men, this is human nature. Some male bosses just like to take women, which has become a habit over time.
It seems that some male bosses like to take their female subordinates to socialize, both for work reasons and personal reasons. But I hope that no matter what kind of psychology and reasons, whether it is a boss or a subordinate, we should straighten our position and correct our attitude. Because, whether it is the road to the workplace or the road to life, it is more than just a social interaction.
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Under normal circumstances, bosses or male bosses like to bring female subordinates to socialize together. There are only three kinds of psychology:
1, pleasing to the eye. Be sure to pay attention to the preconditions. A male boss or a female subordinate brought by a male boss will be very beautiful. If it's not beautiful, he won't bring it. Since it is beautiful, it is pleasing to the eye. This is the so-called delicious food. Even if there is nothing, it is a pleasure to have beautiful women to drink with you, just like why all kinds of wineries must have women to accompany you. In ancient times, princes and nobles and rich children also liked to be served by women when drinking, so they should feel the same way.
2. Take the opportunity to hijack. Female subordinates are beautiful, and everyone likes beautiful women. If the male boss or boss doesn't have a wife, he can take the opportunity to develop the relationship between husband and wife. If he has, he can drink together and take advantage. I even have the opportunity to develop into a lover relationship and earn my own pocket. Isn't it beautiful?
3. Public relations. Since beautiful women like themselves, other men will certainly like them. Then take her with you when we talk about things, and drink together in the wine field. In addition to pleasing customers, it can also stimulate interest. Plus beautiful women can say a few words to make men happy, or men and women flirt together. It's done. The contract has been signed and the order has been obtained. This is the charm of beauty, sometimes worth thousands of troops.
Bringing a beautiful secretary with gold on her face all evolved from studying TV and movies. Many families have a headache for this, and everyone knows that women are jealous. Anyway, what's it like to bring a male secretary to join us? You don't have to tell me to know what's going on inside. . . . .
First face, take a beautiful female subordinate out to have face and satisfy your vanity.
The second unspoken rule is that it is easy to cooperate with a beautiful female subordinate.
Third, out of social needs, you can help yourself drink or drive and deal with some things.
The fourth is to support the venue and create an atmosphere. Especially sociable female subordinates, can drive the atmosphere better.
Of course, there are other skeletons in the closet, such as eating employee tofu.
In any case, female subordinates must learn to protect themselves when attending such a wine bureau dinner.
In order to achieve a certain goal, do something you don't want to do, but you have to do it. For your own related interests (such as business, work and position), go to some places you don't want to go, do something you don't want to do, say something you don't want to say, and meet some people you don't want to see. This is workplace entertainment, and workplace entertainment can't be separated from the wine bureau.
Some male bosses take female subordinates to socialize because girls are more careful and will observe. In case of forgetting something, or forgetting what to say and who to see, the female subordinate will think everything for the boss at this time.
The boss likes the care and eye contact of female subordinates. Besides, female subordinates usually work very hard and take their work seriously. The boss really needs the assistance of this kind of capable, charming and talkative female subordinate when socializing, so as to lay the foundation for future cooperation.
Another situation is to take female subordinates to socialize. On the one hand, let her see the interpersonal relationships and potential partners in the workplace, and on the other hand, there are ladies around. In order to save face, professionals often reach some cooperation for beautiful ladies.
In TV series, female employees often block a few glasses of wine for the boss and say a few nice words, which will be easy to achieve. If they meet a good leader or boss after socializing, they will be promoted and raised if they do well. If they meet that kind of playboy boss, they must stay awake when socializing and don't try to make him achieve a certain goal.
Psychology is as follows:
First, stop drinking.
Generally, most female subordinates are brought to give up drinking, because drinking in this entertainment place is essential, and it is not drunk. Most bosses have seen this deadly drinking place, and it is easy to get drunk if you don't drink enough.
Second, vanity.
Bringing beautiful women subordinates, on the one hand, shows that there are many beautiful women in the unit, on the other hand, shows that you have absolute control over beautiful women subordinates, which can highlight your sense of accomplishment.
At the same time, on the wine table, men will inevitably talk about beauty and women. If they bring a unique female subordinate on the wine table, not only will their vanity be satisfied, but other bosses or leaders will also make fun of them, tell some jokes, and even associate themselves with female subordinates, and they will feel flattered.
Third, training.
If you think this female subordinate is capable, smart and loyal to herself, then you will make great efforts to develop her and push her to an important position to facilitate her future work. It will also cultivate contacts for female subordinates and get to know bosses from all walks of life to facilitate future work.
Fourth, establish personal relationships.
To put it bluntly, it is more convenient to establish contacts with female subordinates.
On the wine table, most of them are men. They call their female subordinates and use her as a link to establish personal relationships with bosses from all walks of life. They may even set up a honey trap, so that the boss they can use can automatically take the bait, which is convenient for the future development and utilization of resources.
Fifth, strengthen public relations.
This is also very important, probably for public relations. On some wine tables, it is likely that they are the bosses who control the future public opinion or manage the fate of their own units, and most of the female subordinates in their own units are responsible for public relations work, so they are called in to meet these important responsible persons who decide the future fate of their own units.
An active atmosphere of intransitive verbs
The wine table is full of old people. In addition to talking about career and beauty, the topic may be simple and boring, and the reception may be over after a long time.
If you invite extroverted and uninhibited beautiful women, you can not only enliven the atmosphere on the wine table, but also make fun of them and tell jokes, so that the atmosphere on the wine table will not be so silent and monotonous.
It is true that many male bosses like to take their female subordinates to socialize. Why? These male bosses may not have clear dirty thoughts, but they must have been influenced by secular views and their moral standards have become blurred, which makes them a little greasy.
First of all, I experienced it myself and was bossed around by my boss. This is a large-scale exhibition, and our company, as one of the organizers, also occupies a place in the exhibition. There is a grand dinner in the evening. The boss and the bosses have a table, and I have a table with the project personnel of other companies.
Halfway through the meal, the boss suddenly called me over. Then I'll go there.
After the past, the boss specially asked me to propose a toast to General X, so I made a toast, but I stopped drinking, and the boss knew.
So I filled in this X, and then I brought juice. At this time, the boss said a set of words beside me, simply saying:
The first meaning, you see my female subordinates are particularly capable.
The second layer means more cooperation in the future, and my female subordinates are responsible for docking.
I can only say: Manager X, it's nice to meet you. I respect you.
Then the two of them laughed, and I just kept a basic smile.
After the toast, the boss moved a chair and let me chat with manager X for a while, so we sat down and had another business exchange.
Combined with my 10 years of working experience, such an occasion is still green and environmentally friendly-
First of all, allow me to drink juice.
The content of the second chat basically centered on work and past experience, touting each other, without vulgar jokes and any doubts about women's personal life.
But even so, I will cooperate, but I don't like it.
Second, why does the boss always bring women when socializing? Because of consuming women! Wine tables are sometimes low-end power games. In some companies, wine table culture prevails, and people get tired of drinking for three or four hours at a time. It will force everyone to drink. There are many rules and doorways in this kind of dinner. The girl I tutored came to me and said that I felt like a sm after four hours on the wine table. I understand her, because in the traditional wine table culture, the boss thinks that the whole wine table is my country, and he constantly verifies whether his authority is effective. At this time, some colleagues will confirm their influence by toasting or persuading them to drink. This game with low version permissions is not humanized enough, which is one of the reasons why it is annoying on the wine table.
The wine table is an extension of the work scene, so unfriendly and various prejudices against women will certainly appear on the wine table, even more easily. And I think there is a hidden rule on the wine table that women will be the consumption objects at the dinner table.
So how do wine tables consume women?
Second, women can be a foil to the topic. If the leader tells jokes or someone shakes his head, everyone wants to see young women join in. The topic of foil has another meaning, that is, if the leader can't say it, then wait for the subordinates, especially the female subordinates, to say it. For example, how good your background is and how hard you work.
Women are expected to replicate the hot atmosphere on the wine table. Leaders like to let female subordinates toast others and say, "Little fellow, you propose a toast to General Zhang". Everyone will acquiesce in a girl's toast, and the other party is not easy to refuse. Others like to invite girls to drink together. Many people will think that there are girls, and the atmosphere on the wine table is particularly lively.
So what should I do when I am so bossed around by my boss? First of all, in my opinion, the progress of social civilization and personal welfare income are equally important. What do I mean by this sentence
In other words, this thing is unjust, and we can denounce and oppose it, thus promoting a more civilized society.
At the same time, if you find that you can't resist and you can adapt, then you can adapt, so there is no problem.
Based on this principle, if you are taken to socialize by the leader, then I have the following suggestions:
1, always online.
This is not to cater to, but for the basic professional quality. Always online is a test. Maybe you are tired, maybe you don't want to eat with outsiders, maybe you have a full-time chat with everyone, and the jokes told by the leaders are not interesting at all ... these are all possible. Even so, please don't drop the line.
In detail, first of all, don't brush your mobile phone to build a barrier against communication with others. Secondly, don't talk to your colleagues who get along well with you in private, and of course don't show resistance to this wine table. I used to have a colleague who used to hide when he went to the department to have dinner with customers or the big boss at headquarters. Every time we make a special call to her, she won't come.
In fact, your manager may not really want to attend this wine table, and there is nothing we can do. The wine table is an extension of the workplace, so it is also a work task. Please don't be too headstrong. If you are always absent-minded or lower your head to take your mobile phone, your superiors will feel ashamed. Every wine table has a task. Your boss may be entertaining with a tough mood, but you let him play the monkey alone, which is very uncooperative.
So what is the performance of the high-end position without dropping the line? It is active service, and it is a heart-to-heart conversation. In terms of positive service, it is estimated that my readers are relatively young, so now is not the time to pretend to be cold. Be diligent and ask what you need.
You can take the initiative or refuse directly.
First of all, you don't have to drink. You should be steady when you meet people who are pestering you.
Drink if you can. After all, the wine table is a place where information and resources flow rapidly. If you can drink and talk, you will slowly gather resources. Leaders often appreciate it, because customers appreciate it when they can drink it. But if you don't drink enough or don't want to drink, you must believe that you can refuse.
How is refusing to drink effective? I suggest that it is most effective to show backbone and refuse directly, saying, "Sorry, I can't drink." I am a teetotaler myself, so I was advised to drink on the wine table. I always smile and say thank you. I don't drink.
Some girls will ask me, can you say that I have a stomachache or an allergy? Do you think that will help?
I think, unless it's really useful for you to stop pregnancy, it's useless to meet a double-faced drinker, have a stomachache, catch a cold or have a toothache. He will say a set of "drinking is beauty, detoxification and beauty." This kind of person is boring and clingy. So why don't you repeat: thank you, I don't drink. Don't be timid when you say this. First of all, you can't feel guilty-don't think I won't drink if I'm told to. Sorry for the leader, sorry for the customer. It doesn't matter, the wine table is an extension of the workplace. There is a wine table in front of the workplace. You work hard and reliably, so long as you don't drink, you haven't wronged anyone and won't ruin your career.
In short, it is most effective to refuse directly, and crush him with a calm temperament.
Secondly, some people make yellow jokes and suggest cold treatment.
In the face of dirty jokes, if you are anxious directly on the wine table, I am afraid it will be difficult to end. Of course, if you are a senior, you are the most important person on the wine table, and you can take the initiative to stop people who say dirty jokes. I wish all the friends who read this article can climb to the top. But now, if you are still a child, it is difficult for us to stop it directly.
It is true that many boys and girls, after drinking alcohol, are not very stable in hormones, and they will act as if they are brilliant, but they are actually ugly, such as pornographic jokes. My suggestion is cold treatment.
First of all, don't summer-plant. After a dirty joke or many gaffes, you don't have to join in with a smile. You can drink water and eat, and your face is heavy.
If they play a joke on you, just sink your face like water and say, "I don't know what you're talking about." If this makes you unhappy, you have to respond. You calmly say, "Don't joke like this."
After the cold treatment, jokers usually change the subject with interest. After the topic is changed, you should take the initiative to participate in it according to the above three suggestions.
Finally, you can take the initiative to propose a toast and get close to authority.
In fact, I have also coached girls who are willing to drink and seek resources. They will take the initiative to toast the authoritative figures in the entertainment circle, so the traffic is objective. Such students are bold, and the key is to really have a capacity for alcohol. It's good to be able to do it, but it doesn't matter if you can't.
In short, the essence of socializing female subordinates is the game in the power structure.
Most of it is vanity, and another is business.