First,? mercy
The so-called benevolence means that there is a bottom line in the bones, words and deeds are measured, communication is inclusive, and the heart is kind.
How to play the "benevolence" card?
1.？ Be kind to yourself.
Kindness and weakness are not the same thing.
To be kind to others, the first step is to be kind to yourself, otherwise you will be eaten alive by others and you don't even know what's going on.
What do you mean?
( 1) ? The goal of kindness is to be noble.
You can't be your own villain, nor can you be a cancer of society, otherwise you will dig your own grave and indirectly endanger society.
(2) Be kind to others, be clear about your bottom line, and bravely tell them not to indulge others in infringing your rights and interests.
(3) Being kind to others is your willing enjoyment, not being forced to be kidnapped by morality.
Otherwise, such goodwill is meaningless. On the one hand, you are full of resentment, on the other hand, the other party doesn't feel sincerity.
Courage and kindness are twin brothers. Only by doing the above can we play the card of "benevolence".
2. Be lenient with others and turn your enemy into your friend.
If the former enemy didn't really threaten your personal safety and personal interests, but just didn't mean to offend or dislike each other, then the correct way should be to turn the enemy into a friend, be lenient with others, take the initiative to make peace and form a United front.
After all, I haggle over every ounce and make many enemies. I was kept in the dark, never knowing what moths others would make behind my back.
Moreover, the alliance transformed from the enemy has seen each other's disadvantages, so it is no longer necessary to hide fraud, and it will always be stronger than the alliance of mutual respect.
3, empathy, understand other people's habits or behaviors.
Not everyone can grow up well-fed,
When we habitually dislike other people's habits or principles, such as meanness and pessimism, it may be that others have a dark past that you have not experienced.
Therefore, if this person is kind in nature, but there is something you don't like, don't blame him easily, don't be too demanding, but understand the reasons for his behavior.
4, don't expose other people's scars, get to know others.
Don't be smart and self-righteous. If you find that others are lying to cover up your misfortune or suffering, you should learn to understand and agree.
This is also a way of self-protection, because the deeper you explore other people's holes, the more you will involve yourself and become a person who fills the emotional black hole.
If you stare into the abyss, the abyss will stare into you.
5. Don't seek superiority in people who are in chaos or low status.
When you are really kind, you already know that you are a great man, especially when you are green.
If you meet someone who is at a low ebb, don't show off what you have achieved or what you have.
This harms others and does not benefit others.
First, this is equivalent to sprinkling salt on other people's wounds;
The nature of two people always wants you to be good, but they don't want you to be better than me, so there is no need to be jealous.
You are excellent, you can talk, and others will know that what you say is not really excellent.
Of course, if that person has done a very excessive act, he must show off and annoy him.
If you are not alone, you must have neighbors. Don't win or lose in the short term. Take ten years as a period, and you will know the importance of "benevolence"
At least in the trough, others will throw more olive branches, and even if they don't help you, they won't push you to death.
The scenery is fleeting for a while, and the rest of my life is stable.
Second,? fair
Meet righteousness and win people's hearts; Convenient intersection, see human nature clearly.
What is fellowship with righteousness?
1.？ People who benefit others will always benefit, and giving is more blessed than receiving.
If you want to get help from others, you should first help others, or let others know that you have helped you or that you have nothing to lose.
When your energy reaches a positive cycle, it is time to make a fortune.
If you want it, you have to pay first.
Give me a peach and a plum in return. Don't kick down the ladder and kick the middleman.
The third party uses his platform to help you. Don't forget your roots, but share the results or express your gratitude.
For example, if this single third-party business is successful, it will be good to give back to others in the form of sharing, even if it is not much.
If you just introduce resources and contacts, then give each other gifts or red envelopes.
In this way, the third party will introduce you to more valuable resources, and there will be more and more opportunities for cooperation.
Conversely, kick down the ladder, others help you once, and naturally there will be no next time.
3. Maintain * * * and don't snitch.
If a comrade-in-arms in the same trench does something wrong (not in principle), what you have to do is not to report to your superiors, but to help him tide over this difficulty.
You help him this time, and he will help you next time. Who can guarantee that he will never make mistakes?
Moreover, tattleting will also damage your image. In the eyes of countless leaders, this is a villain's behavior and is not trustworthy.
Good for everyone. It's really good. Too much emphasis on personal contributions or personal interests is easy to be isolated by group attacks.
Third, the ceremony
The so-called ceremony is to advance and retreat moderately without going to extremes.
How?
1.？ To put it bluntly, the gas reservoir is in the chest and the gas floats on the surface.
When you meet someone who violates your position, please slow down your tone and express your views calmly and slowly.
The form must be euphemistic.
For example, our mother never said that if you dare to xxx, I will kill you.
We euphemistically say, severely condemn, express regret and fully support.
2. It is always humble to talk with the villagers, and it is even more flattering to walk with the princes.
Even if the other person is just a screw, don't be overbearing, because what can help you in the end is often the cuteness of these grassroots.
On the other hand, the other party's position is high, so don't be too low-key. After all, there is no shortage of flatterers around him. What he lacks is a sincere and good assistant.
3. Speak less and listen more, and then move.
It's best to have a proper limit in dealing with people you don't know very well. Don't let yourself expose your views and positions prematurely, and don't refute them immediately if you disagree, which is easy to get passive.
The other party said, give priority to him, he takes one step, you follow one step, chatting is just for fun, don't be too serious.
Fourth,? wisdom
The so-called wisdom is not the cleverness of the organs, but the great wisdom of understanding the macro layout.
How to play the card of "wisdom"?
1、 ? The general is on his way, not chasing rabbits.
Smart people often know which is more important, and will not covet the sweetness of the moment, leading to ugly eating and self-destruction of their future.
So before you do something, set an ultimate goal, from the beginning to the end, and don't be confused by the immediate small interests.
Don't make small profits, make big plans.
2、 ? Don't cut the chicken with a big knife.
High-quality resources should be your trump card, and don't use them easily until the important moment.
For example, knowing a high-quality network, you always let others praise you, bargain and vote, which seems smart and saves money, but in the long run, it is extremely stupid.
This kind of behavior is quite drastic, wasting network resources, or others helping you, but your value in the eyes of others only stays on "people who love to bargain and save money", and they will not think of more advanced things and opportunities for you.
3、 ? Don't fight for victory or defeat at other people's home, but be steady and steady on your own track.
Being clever and winning or losing at other people's home is actually a detour and a waste of time.
What you have to do is to calm down and do well what you are doing.
No matter what the current situation of the selected field is, the industry itself always has ups and downs.
As long as you love this field and you are basically qualified at every stage, you are not afraid to leave it. As your qualifications grow, this feedback will increase with the superposition of contacts, resources and experience, even dozens of times your past wealth experience.
The final winner must be you.
4, don't make too many assumptions, and verify the results in action.
Don't just talk and do nothing. Once you have practical small goals and plans, you must go forward bravely, go all the way to the dark, verify the results with actions, and make mistakes while making mistakes.
There is no work to pave the way. If you are ready, you can reach the other side of victory as soon as you step on the gas pedal.
5、 ? Catastrophe is also a great revolution, and suffering is also a new life.
Don't be pessimistic in times of crisis. God helps those who help themselves.
Only when there is danger can we take advantage of it For example, at this moment, there is a crisis and the economy is hit. What you have to do is not panic, but think about how to move forward in a new field that is beneficial to others and yourself, such as medical care, online education and artificial intelligence.
Verb (short for verb)? Letter.
The so-called "trust" is to use your teeth as gold and make others feel that you are honest and reliable.
How to play the "letter" card well?
1.？ Even if it is a trivial matter, it must be completed with good quality and quantity.
Usually, before you entrust an important task, you will be asked to do a small thing to evaluate it.
Finish this job perfectly with good quality and quantity, and you will have more opportunities to soar.
On the other hand, if you don't think this is a good opportunity, just prevaricate and ruin your future.
In the rivers and lakes of adults, opportunities are fleeting. If you miss this time, it will be difficult to have a next time.
To do things well, we should pay attention to two points:
(1) Make a plan before you start something, don't be eager for quick success, and end it hastily;
(2) Less is more, and only promise the small things within your own ability and time, ensuring quality and quantity.
2, transparent and loyal, let others know about themselves.
Don't be inscrutable before you reach the peak of high power.
The best way is to make your position clear and let others understand you.
Seemingly stupid, but actually wise.
Wisdom is stupidity.
On the contrary, many smart people always hide their true opinions.
In this way, out of human instinct, others will easily guess their true intentions with the worst malice, which will lead to misunderstanding and doubt, and at the same time lose the opportunity to gain trust.
3. heart for heart. If you are true, he will be true.
Whether in the workplace or in love, don't always think about "fishing" others, be sincere to others.
On the other hand, if the machine is always exhausted and wiped clean, then the magnetic field will induce others to treat you in the same way.
People who fish for people always fish for them.
Finally, I want to say that benevolence, righteousness, propriety, wisdom and faithfulness, seemingly unpretentious, are familiar to everyone, but they are precisely the most basic cards. If you can control one of them, you can walk in the world without obstacles.
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