The city is a delicate silver buckle, dotted on the black and green coat of the wilderness, shining day and night.
The wilderness I heard refers to mountains, rivers, oceans, lakes, forests, Gobi Desert ... all places that are sparsely populated and have preserved their original features.
Wilderness and city are fundamental opposites.
People often think that the word for city is country. For example, it is often said that "the difference between urban and rural areas" and "city people and country people", in fact, the countryside is only a low-level stage of urban development. No matter how simple the country is, it is also the brother of the city.
Only the wilderness and the city are silent. The city invaded the former territory of the wilderness, dispersed the original inhabitants in the wilderness, destroyed the ancient scenery of the wilderness, and increasingly replaced the natural scenery with orderly prosperity.
The city is the demand place of all the great inventions of mankind, which is the exhibition hall, the stadium and the referee's desk. If you have a pair of discerning eyes to watch the earth at night from the universe, he will be shocked by the immortal light of the city. The wilderness is soothing and the city is fierce. The wilderness is quiet and the city is noisy. The wilderness has a strong tolerance for everything, and the city is almost dominated by people. ...
In order to get from one city to another faster and faster, people invented various means of transportation. People use the most advanced communication means to connect cities, making the whole earth an all-inclusive network. It can be said that in a broad sense, people can't survive without cities.
I read a mountaineering report that a brave man who successfully climbed Mount Everest was caught in a snowstorm on his way back to the camp and could not be rescued. People can only connect with his wireless phone through satellite. During the ice storm, he and his wife discussed the names of the upcoming children in cities far away from Wan Li, and the hurricane was accompanied by farewell talks. A few hours later, the phone was connected to the main peak again, and the phone was answered by the eternal silence in the wilderness of the city.
I think this sad scene is somewhat a symbol of the city and the wilderness. A city is a colossus that people have accumulated from generation to generation with wisdom, hard work, courage and time. In the city, there are traces of civilization everywhere, and people who are later than them almost think they are invincible. But on the vast land outside the city, the wilderness silently rules the sky and despises the world.
People wedged the city into the wilderness like huge nails, and used this as a stronghold to stubbornly reproduce and create colorful civilizations. At the beginning, the wasteland was indifferent, even gentle. But once the wilderness strikes back, people will be at a loss. The ancient city of Virginia, the ancient city of Pompeii ... The glorious names of a series of battlements in history are all lost in the folds of the earth.
People have built more and more bigger cities to meet various needs, and the wilderness is shrinking day by day. But people should not ignore the wilderness, ignore the wilderness, but find the best gap with their blind date. To be kind to the wilderness is to be kind to human beings themselves. You know, human beings can never overcome the wilderness with cities, and the wilderness is the skin of nature.
If the skin does not exist, how can the hair be attached? !
soft
The word "soft" is interesting to think about. Let's start with the word "harmony", which consists of two parts: seedling and mouth. That probably means that with the growing seedlings, the food in the mouth will be guaranteed, and people should be calm and peaceful.
This law may be irrefutable in a farming society. At that time, as long as people had enough food and clothing, everything else was easy to say. With the development of society and technology. After people's lower needs are met, it is impossible to soothe the stirring soul only by the food in their hands. There is a saying in China that "those who are full and full-go looking for trouble". It can be seen that after the stomach is full, there will be new problems, at least not completely calm.
Say the word "soft" first. Usually it seems like a pool of mud, bones and so on. But when you think about it carefully, the upper part is "spear" and the lower part is "wood"-a spear cut from wood looks quite powerful and aggressive. Softness is a kind of praise, such as "flexibility, flexibility, combining rigidity with softness, torch tempering ……", which shows that it has the same important aesthetic and practical value as masculinity.
I remember when I was studying medicine in my early years, my husband asked me in class one day, think about it. What concentration is good for disinfection with alcohol? The students answered in unison, of course, the higher the better! Mister said, wrong. Excessive concentration of alcohol will make the outer wall of bacteria solidify in a very short time, forming a barrier, and the subsequent alcohol will never be killed, and the bacteria are still alive behind the barrier. The most effective concentration is to adjust the concentration of liquor to be softer, so as to moisten things quietly and achieve good results.
So I understood for the first time that softness is sometimes more powerful than a storm.
Softness is a quality and style. It is not the loss of principle, but the persistence of a higher realm, an art that has never been arrogant and still protects dignity. Softness is the harmonious unity of internal principle and external elasticity, and softness is a humble mentality. If you don't believe me, look at the advertisement in the newspaper. All for a soft-hearted partner. People want soft eyes, soft intonation, soft facial lines and soft body tension. ...
When we gently pronounce the word "softness", you will feel the warmth of blue on your lips.
Some people pursue softness and think that it is the mastery of speed and skill. There are many tips on teaching softness in books and periodicals, such as how to soften her voice and gestures ... I once met a girl who wrote a big word "slow" on her palm with an oil pen in order to soften her temperament, and traced it every day, and her palm was always green. As a result, when she raises her hand, she often scares people, thinking that she has practiced evil martial arts. Make a rule for yourself. Before you say a word, count from 1 to 10 in your mind ... She has nothing to do with softness except making people feel dull and moody.
If a person's heart is soft, all external soft forms of imitation and practice are castles in the sand.
Look at the sky and the ocean. They are soft when they are the most beautiful, the widest, the quietest and the cleanest.
Only when you grow up your heart will you gain softness inadvertently.
The softer our voice is, the easier it is to penetrate into distant space. When our eyes become soft, we will roll up the screen window of our hearts more lightly. When our faces become soft, we can convey warm sincerity more smoothly. The softer our bodies are, the more accurately we can show our belief in equality with others.
Softness is the restraint of strength and the serenity of high self-confidence. May you feel soft as a cloud one morning.
Echo wall of love
Nowadays, couples under middle age are almost all children, and their care has probably reached the highest level in the history of China. Home feels like an apple. If there are more sisters and brothers, they will be divided into several petals. If a thousand acres of seedlings and children are in the hands of their parents, then the world will be lonely.
Is it worthwhile for children to be immersed in unprecedented love and feel great happiness? I asked curiously. The children pouted and said, no, I don't think anyone loves us.
I was shocked and advised, look, mom is so busy at work that she has to wash and cook for you. It's hard for dad to earn money to support his family outside! How much do they love you ...
The child said indifferently, that's nothing! Who let them be parents? It didn't come for nothing. They should be. I will be a mom and dad in the future. Is this love? Love is too common!
I was shocked. A child who doesn't know love is like a fish that can't breathe, out of the family tank. In a dry society, if he doesn't love himself or herself, he will die of thirst.
But how can you let the children you raised know what love is? When he received the first ray of light from his eyes, he was surrounded by meticulous care and had long turned a blind eye to care and consideration. There is a law in biology that when a substance is too strong, it will feel fast, dull and paralyzed.
If love is defined as care, with the growth of children's age, the care for him will gradually decrease, and children will complain about the decline of love. The simple proposition that "love is care" has led many adults and children into a misunderstanding.
The sudden drop in first frost can also make people feel happy, such as parents' divorce or early death. However, the by-product of its disaster has natural power and inviolable cold. Although children understand what it means to be loved in retrospect, it is a classroom that normal people don't want to enter.
When a child is born, it is necessary to bear the milk of love with one hand and sow the rain and dew of love with the other. Love is a balanced account book. Unfortunately, from the beginning, adults suddenly poured out all their love reserves, squeezed their heads and stuffed their children's hands full. It's all income, no expenditure, love is accumulated by precipitation, from magic to decay, so that children can't feel that others love you.
I asked a group of children again, when did you feel that others loved you?
I didn't expect a decent answer How much can children understand a question that adults are arguing endlessly? For example, you ask a woman in love when she feels loved by her boyfriend. The answer must be bizarre.
I did not expect the child's answer to be clear and firm.
I bought vinegar for my mother. When she saw that I didn't break the bottle or spill vinegar, she said that my daughter could help my mother ... I was very happy. From then on, I knew she loved me. The girl with the braid said.
When my dad came back from work, I poured him a glass of water, because I just learned a song in kindergarten, which said to pour water for my mom, and I poured it for my dad before my mom came back. My father only said one word, and my good son ... cried. From then on, I knew he loved me. The bald boy said.
I put a flower in my grandmother's ear. If it was anyone else, she wouldn't let me. She must finish it at once. But I stuck it in, and she always had it with her. When she saw someone, she said, look, my grandson dressed me up ... I know she loves me ... another girl said.
I was very surprised. I am surprised at the smallness of these things and the iron logic of children. When it comes to the solemn and firm conclusion, they are even more moved. Love and being loved are highly simplified and unified. Children feel the meaning of young life when they are needed by others. Adults pay attention to and emphasize this value, and they feel deep love. When trying to give, they know what receiving is. Love is a huge and smooth echo wall, and tiny love echoes and refracts into a huge roar. When the given love is solemnly accepted and cherished, children will eventually feel strongly the dignity and sacredness of being loved.
Children who are numb by too much love and can't spare their left hand have to use their right hand to complete the dual tasks of love and understanding.
Parents in the world, if you love your child, you must let him begin to love you and the people around him when he can. This is by no means an adult's selfishness, but a longing for children's lives. Don't complain that children are born without love. To love and be loved is a once-in-a-century art of educating people. Just like walking, it takes repeated practice to fly.
If a child is immersed in endless love, he will be deprived of the ability to perceive love early, and a love imbecile will be born, even if it is not a big mistake, it is an abuse of adult power and may be condemned by God.
Appreciate being loved in love, and there will be double gains. As children grow up, a young man who loves himself, the world, mankind and nature will come out of generate.
Detailed explanation
An ancient Korean book tells a short story.
A man named Huang, traveling incognito, passed by a farmland, sat down to rest, saw a farmer driving two cows in the farmland, and asked the farmer, which one is better? The farmer looked at him and said nothing. When the farm reached the field, the cows were eating grass. The farmer attached the cow to Huang's ear and whispered, I tell you, the cow next to him is better. Huang was surprised and asked, "Why do you speak so quietly?" ? The farmer replied that although cows are animals, their hearts are the same as people's. If I say loudly that this cow is not good, they can see it from my eyes, gestures and voice. I commented that the cow, despite its efforts, is still not good enough and will feel very sad. ...
Think of people, children and youth.
No matter how clever a cow is, it is no more sensitive and smarter than a well-developed person, even if it is a child with a little feeling. Compared with farmers who are considerate of cattle psychology, do adults, leaders and people who have the right to judge others in the world often ignore a kind of comfort to the soul at the moment of praise or criticism?
Parents often think that children have no or lack of self-esteem. Yell at them at will and nag about a little mistake. No matter what the occasion is, no matter who is present, they only care about speaking happily, no matter whether the children can bear it or not. I think it is a good medicine, no matter how bitter it is, it should be swallowed by children, without discoloration or heartbeat. The more painful a child is, the more impressed he is with this kind of education, and the more effective it will be.
The only reins that can stop people from repeating the same mistakes are introspective self-esteem and self-control Its essence is a kind of treasure for oneself and respect for others, and it is a kind of obedience to social public laws. If a child has lost his dignity in endless psychological torture since he was a child, then no matter how professional his education is, it will be difficult to make up for his mental gloom and deformity, and his personality will also lurk under a huge crisis.
People often think that only criticism should pay attention to occasions, and if praise is given, it is appropriate at any time and under any circumstances. This is also a misunderstanding.
Criticism is like ice water, praise is like hot compress. Temperatures vary, but they are all means to cure pain. Criticism can often make us awake, awe-inspiring, and deeply reflect on our mistakes, and generate is excited. Praise is like a warm and pleasant bath, which makes people feel excited, high-spirited and uplifting.
But if you criticize and praise in public, in addition to flogging and encouraging the direct target, it will also involve the reactions of others who are listening at the same time. Needless to say, the common strategies of leaders are often like this: criticism of individuals is generally criticism of everyone, and praise of one person is a silent spur to most people. As for parents, in front of their own children, they often mention the behavior of other children, whether it is criticism or praise, even naive children know, not to mention the meaning of drunkenness is not innuendo after drinking.
Criticism and praise are always double-edged swords. Make good use of it, it is extremely sharp, cut a path, and use us to move forward quickly. Improper use may hurt yourself and others and drop a string of blood.
I think, for children, there is no need to be too persistent in any part that belongs to talent, whether it is praise or criticism. Just like the beauty of roses and the weakness of grass, they have a strong irresistible providence. No matter how hard an individual tries, the change will not be great or even useless. Roses will never turn green, and grass will never be fragrant.
People are the same. We have many innate qualities, and everyone is different. For example, looks, such as height, such as strength, such as IQ ... In this category, there is no need for too much praise or criticism. Praising how beautiful this child is and how smart that child is not only does not help others to study in a targeted way, but also turns the advantages of others into their own advantages. On the contrary, it will breed resentment for children who are not praised and inexplicable superiority for children who are praised. Criticism is the same, mocking children for being stupid and mocking children for being stupid. They can't choose to change their brains or nerves, they will only be pessimistic and maybe give up on themselves from now on. If the children next to them gain the capital to look down on others for no reason, they may be complacent and slack off their efforts.
The main territory of criticism and praise should be the scope and depth that human power can reach. They are a yardstick for evaluating attitudes, not a spectroscope for identifying talents. We can criticize children's laziness, but not their cleverness. We can praise the girl for washing her handkerchief clean, instead of praising her noble clothes. We can criticize the cowardice and incompetence of running away from the battle, but don't allude to the congenital weakness. We can praise the strength and agility after exercise, but we don't have to pay too much attention to the inherited height and fierceness. ...
Improper criticism and praise, like too cold ice water and too hot steam, will damage our spirit. Children's skin and mind are more delicate. Their ability to repair themselves is not tenacious enough. If the injury is too deep, it will leave a lifelong mark and hurt every rainy day. The scars left behind infringe on the brilliance and beauty of life.
A farmer in Shan Ye raises cattle wholeheartedly. People are more sensitive than cows, so whether praise or criticism, we should learn to attach it to our ears and say softly. ...
The tree closest to the sun
Thirty years ago, I was a soldier in Ali, Tibet.
This is the third class in the world, with an average elevation of 5000 meters, numerous ice peaks and lonely snowfields. I don't know whether it is the protection of the gods or the negligence of nature. In the folds of the desert, there are sometimes incredible red willows. They have rust-red skills like iron, broken leaves and feathers like wind, and occasionally flowers with thin ears, smiling at the heat and lack of oxygen in the plateau. The elves in this plateau are the closest green trees to the sun, and it takes a hundred years to grow into a small crown. When I was in Tibetan area for medical treatment, I rode through the red willow with light blue tone, thinking that I would be with snow forever.
One day, the purser assigned the task-all the firewood!
I thought I heard wrong. Above the plateau, where is the firewood? !
It turned out that it was driving hundreds of kilometers to dig out the red willow for firewood.
I was shocked and said that if the red willow was dug up, the only tree on the plateau would be extinct.
The purser replied, you want to eat, right? Should the rice be cooked? Cooking needs firewood, right? The firewood is red willow, right?
I said, the willow is not firewood, it is alive, it has life. Cooking can use gasoline and coke, why use the only green color on the plateau!
The quartermaster said that pulling a car full of gasoline up the hill would consume two cars of gasoline on the way. The burnt ash and charcoal are shipped up, and the price of one kilogram is equal to six kilograms of white flour. Mangroves are free. You can calculate this account!
The team digging willows set off with shovels, pickaxes and axes.
Red willows usually grow on sand dunes. On the top of the solid sand dune, a red willow stands proudly. Its roots are like countless claws of a giant octopus, clinging to the edge of the sand dune.
I want to know, why doesn't Liu Hong find a leeward place to go to cats? It's not that hard to live. The veteran said, you put the cart before the horse, not the red willow on the sand dune, but because of this, the quicksand was fixed. With the growth of red willow, more and more quicksand is fixed, and finally it gathers into a sand mountain. How wide the roots of red willows are, how big the sand hills are.
Ah, red willows are like icebergs. Only one-tenth of the sand is exposed, and great power is buried underground.
The branches and leaves of red willow are not good firewood. What is really tenacious is the strong roots of the red willow, which stick to the sand like reinforced concrete. Once it burns, it continuously and steadily spits out the burning heat, as if the light obtained from the sun for thousands of years was compressed and burst. In the golden red flame, every willow root has maintained its intricate shape for a long time, like a proud and unyielding soul.
It is a terrible workload to dig out the roots of willow trees from sand dunes. Mangroves and land depend on each other for life and death, so it will take people a few days to dig out most of the sand hills first. In this way, the red willow flew across the wilderness skillfully, like a hollow dinosaur skeleton. Here, we need to invite the best people to cut off the last connection between this living giant root carving and the earth with a sharp axe. The whole willow tree suddenly fell down.
Year after year, the easy-to-dig red willow disappeared, leaving only the oldest tree essence.
The construction period of digging sand mountain is getting longer and longer, and the most energetic young man also broke his old arm. So people came up with a high-tech way-use!
As long as you dig a deep alley at the root of the willow tree and put the gunpowder in it with a shelf, people will lie prone from a distance and light the long twist medicine. After a profound silence, there was only a bang, and the deep tree monsters scattered.
We had a delicious meal. This year, we can see that the sand dunes dug out with red willows last year, like the wounded in the evisceration, are still glaring at the sky with empty eyelids. All this shocking sight won't last long. By the third year, the sand dunes had disappeared, as if there had never been any thousand-year-old trees and hundreds of millions of gravel piled up here.
According to people who have been to Ali recently, the red willow forest has long been dug up and burned, and even the roots are gone.
Sometimes in the middle of the night, I suddenly think of the aborigines on the plateau. Where do their souls live in the clouds now? Do you feel that the once fixed yellow sand has drifted all over the world? Dust and sand raised from the roof can often fly far away.
I hope you are satisfied, O(∩_∩)O Thank you.